Since time began men and women have been desperately trying to figure out the best ways to get noticed by one another, and have always come away with mixed results. Men may seem too aggressive if they make the first move yet a woman may seem almost desperate if she initiates contact. It always seems that the more attractive the woman, the less chance of her initiating the process of getting to know each other. But here are 5 reasons why a woman should make the first move on a man, in no specific order:
1. Just like a woman, men too like to feel pursued! Nothing feeds our ego and builds up our confidence more than an attractive woman giving us the ‘come hither’ look and walking up to us when we are with friends and making her interest known.
2. Attractive women are not likely to make the first move, so when one does, it gets us thinking about why? This allows men to keep the fantasy going in their head just a bit longer, especially since we feel women are just so difficult to truly understand.
3. In all relationships, from the very new to the very long-term there are always times where a battle for control is raging on. You may not notice the battle as it can be very subtle at times but it is most definitely there. An important reason why a woman should make the first move on a man is not to simply take some manner of control but to show she is capable of asserting herself, which can set the tone for the future of any potential relationship.
4. Confident women are just so darn sexy. She can be like that mysterious guy that doesn’t say much but is noticed by everyone, or the guy that has the old Steve McQueen factor of being cool. A woman that is so secure with herself that she can bend preconceived stereotypes as she sees fit and make the first move on a man will always be a topic of interest to men.
5. It may throw the guy a bit off guard which could cause him to let his true personality be known. If he is at a loss for words he may be easily intimidated or if he immediately goes on the offensive he may not be too secure and wants to bolster himself in front of you and his friends. However, if he smiles and begins to normally engage you in fun conversation he may be just the kind of guy who can appreciate a strong and confident woman and begin a relationship on equal grounds.
There are many reasons why a woman should make the first move on a man, but the key is for both to be open to any and all possibilities. Don’t agonize over it if you are woman and want to get to kno0w a guy better. If you are a guy, don’t automatically think that just because an attractive woman took the initiative to make the first move on man that she is easy and on the prowl. Take each situation individually get out of your comfort zone and have some fun!
A lot of women do make the first move. Some will simply say, “hi”. A few will write a few paragraphs, which are very probably cut and paste. I respond to each and every one. Most are not local women and I pretty much stick to local females. But a few are and a few have become sugarbabes over the 12 plus years I have been on these sites.
Both real sugardaddies and women are on the site for the same reason. I do much of the outreach when a relationship terminates and most will in 6 to 12 months. The majority of mine end when the girl enters a long-term serious relationship. Some end because through my mentoring the sugarbabe has been able to develop financially to become self supporting at a level at which she is satisfied.
I think just a very few women don’t dream /wish of having serious relationship …and the time you spend with a nice person who looks after you makes you feel special in all ways …after some time you will abviosly develop feelings so called love to that person!
Most men do not respond to my emails.
I get approached first a good amount on this site. Without question, the women who write me first are the highest converting and usually go really well and lead to good times. I recommend a skype video chat with everyone before meeting, even if local. My in person success rate is over 90% when doing this. If you get approached by a woman on here, who’s not just running the standard hustle and you’re attracted to her, don’t hesitate. Some of the best women I’ve met leave the site quickly and the good ones are never single long 😉
If I see something I like I definitely go in for the kill. Challenges are always so much fun on my opinion, what’s the worst that could happen? No reply? Getting shut down? If so, then it’s on to the next one. I always reply to the men who message me, it’s intriguing to get to know what each one wants in particular. 🙂
I hardly get responses. I do send genuine messages and state something relating to what I’ve read in the profile but still, no response. I get hit on in person often and I’m trying to stay local but makes me want to reach out to different cities?
I agree with #5. Enough said.
Had a great night out, classy lady and full of laughter. …meeting up next week…
As a single man… I definitely have to say that I feel gender roles aren’t the same as our parents’. These days approaching a woman as a potential mate is much more than just a “hello”. You need to look this girl up on Linkedin, Facebook and do an FBI background check while you run her credit report and ask her about her children. Somehow run a pap-smear and ask her the ol’ “You ever had herpes?” question.
I in totally agree with you, Toni. The same for the man and even then you still have to be careful because paper does not say the mental or emotional state.. It only states the basic, the outer.
No, I am traditional and have never emailed first. By being on the site you are already showing yourself to be available and I would prefer to be with a gentleman who has the confidence and decisiveness to approach me.
I’m looking for the total package … Love romance …. Fun …. Family … And to be taken care of …. I have no problem initiating contact … But I much prefer being Persued
Finally a blog exist. And i am looking for the total package.
Just hard to forget the old one. I have no problem initiating contact.
Just the ones who are asking for Highheels all the time or the ones who reply hardly every few month.
I find that most men are scared off by a forthright woman who know exactly what she wants. Oh they SAY that’s what they want, but they tend to shy off like frightened deer.
My thing is this. I do not mind a woman pursuing me first. Being an older guy, women who come on to me want me to fall in love with them immediately and start giving them goo gobs of money. Usually after about a week. No let’s build a relationship, no let’s go out on a date, no let’s get to know each other. Now it is becoming routine. I want someone to go places and do things with. Not just be a sex partner although I do want to be lusted after. Is that so much to ask? There is magic in that feeling, to know that I am the object of lust, the passion, the sin and compatibility. I want to have each of us feel desired. It is good to be desired. But that takes passion, compatibility and more. It just seems to become a tougher challenge every day to find someone to just get to know and take it from there. At least when I make the first move, I have a shot at dating!
I remember around the turn of the century, I made the first move to a guy on the dating sites. MUCH MORE often then not, the guy I made the first move on, wouldn’t respond back! So I now “Sit back” and only respond AFTER the guy first contacts me.
I think it is a double edged sword. The one and only time I did send the first message he assumed I was desperate. I agree that by being here it shows availability.
Sounds great but some women are too shy or freeze when they see a guy we like at least that’s me…lol .Then after I think he was so cute and was staring straight at me.That is also correct that if a woman makes the first move men thing your desperate.