Surprising Reasons Leading to Most Relationship Mistakes
We have all been in that relationship in which we wished that we could have seen something coming sooner or have thought if we only could change that one thing everything could have been different. Relationship regrets are something that anyone who has been in a relationship has felt at one time or another and most often come after that particular relationship is over or beyond repair. We are going to take a closer look at several of these common relationship mistakes that seem to be the most frequent dating regrets shared by both men and women.
Not Trusting your Gut
This is by far the most common relationship mistake as almost each and every person who has been in a failed relationship has experienced a specific point where their instincts told them something was wrong and they failed to listen to it. Some may have felt that if they ignored this feeling it would go away while others were blinded by unwavering devotion to the other person. Not trusting your gut instincts commonly leads to an inability to express your feelings and talk about potential problems finally resulting in relationship failure.
Not Talking About Problems
Failure to discuss problems is a very common relationship mistake that not only speeds up the collapse of the relationship but affects your self-esteem as well. We always hear how communication is the key to a healthy relationship but it seems many of us have no idea how to communicate. Waiting too long to make your feelings known can result in disaster. Emails and texting are no substitute for sitting down with someone and discussing those things that concern you.
Not Learning From Your Past
Relationship mistakes are just that, mistakes and as such you should learn from them. Just like sticking your hand in a flame and getting burned, you should learn not to place your hand there again. So why is it that so many of us continue to either date the same kind of people or conduct themselves in the same manner that caused the previous relationships to fail? Relationship mistakes are often patterns that seem to be more like the movie “Ground Hog Day” where Bill Murray relives the same day over and over. If you can understand the pattern you have a better chance of breaking it.
Relationships can be difficult and recognizing the red flags will greatly diminish the amount of pain you may need to incur. Take your time and be honest with yourself and the other person about what you are looking for and what you are offering. Don’t be afraid to make your feelings known, as most of us are not mind readers. Fear can be either a great motivator or something that can stop you in your tracks, use it to your advantage. Take things slow and make decisions based on healthy desired outcomes and you should be able to navigate your way through the most common relationship mistakes.