Reading Body Language

One very effective technique which can be of great help when looking to meet people for dating purposes is the proper use of body language. Many individuals seem to underestimate how important body language can be so let’s take a look at how our bodily movements can impact how people perceive us.

We may not be aware of it, but many of us are sending and receiving signals all the time based solely on our physical gestures. Common everyday movements such as the way we walk can send a message to others about our confidence and our mood.  How we read people is about taking these visual cues and decoding them. If you walk with poor posture or sit slouched over at your desk, you are sending a message of low self esteem and laziness. If your goal is to meet people and make a good impression, it is important to walk with your back straight and your head held up and not down.  High heels became a factor in enhancing the body language of women in just this way. Looking downward will send a message that you are either lost or insecure. You might also try walking at a slightly faster pace which will communicate to others that you are important and have places to go.

Whenever you have the opportunity to meet people, it is extremely important to make good eye contact with them. If you’re the type of person who can’t look another individual in the eye, you unknowingly will be sending out a strong message of low self esteem and little confidence.  This can easily be remedied by making sure that you look people directly in the eye but not to the point where it appears you are trying to stare them down.

Something as simple as a smile can make all the difference in the world. In addition to the smile being a key disarming component of the body language of men, Smiling can actually make you more physically attractive and sends a message of warmth, friendliness and happiness.  Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you are about to meet people, be sure to greet them with a genuine smile. A smile costs nothing but its value is priceless!

One thing to avoid doing when in the company of others is to not cross your arms or legs. Doing so will send a message that you are feeling somewhat defensive and distant which can cause people to think you are not interested in them. By not crossing your arms and legs, you will be sending a vibe of openness and friendliness which is like an invitation for people to get to know you better, and done right can be an effective tool for flirting.

A great way to build rapport when meeting is to mimic a person’s movements and postures. Let’s face it we tend to get along better with people who are similar to us. By subtly matching what another person does in terms of postures and gestures, we can create a bond with an individual on a subconscious level. For example if a person is very animated when they express themselves, you should express yourself in a similar fashion. If an individual talks at a fast pace, you might want to talk just as fast or at least avoid speaking slowly. The key for making this effective is to mimic a person’s gestures in a very subtle way that isn’t obvious and you’ll be surprised how quickly an individual will warm up to you.

The most important thing to remember when reading body language is to not underestimate the power of this very meaningful yet silent language. Although there is no app for our phones such as a body language decoder, by being aware of our physical gestures and the gestures and signals of others, we will find that our relationships will suddenly improve and when that happens so does our life!

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