Does my hair look okay? Do you like me? Why won’t he call? These are all common concerns voiced by insecure people who see compliments as a true measure of their self-worth. Men who have an affinity for dating insecure women should do so with some trepidation as they must understand that there is usually a reason for their partner’s insecurity. So the question now becomes how better understand the issues involved and build solid relationships that will last. When dating insecure women there are two important things to realize, first, that all the compliments in the world won’t fix your partner’s insecurity and whatever baggage they are carrying around could take many years of freak out moments to deal with, and possibly many therapists to overcome. Second, all of the whiskey in your favorite tavern won’t fix the issues being dealt with in your partner’s mind.
“That which does not kill us makes us Stronger.” Sometimes when I hear this phrase I want to slap that German philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche upside his head! He obviously had never suffered the desperation and feeling of rejection that men endure when women decide the man is unworthy of her attentions. There are many reasons why women reject men, and it is definitely within their right to do so, however it is often the method or delivery of that rejection that can completely destroy the little bit of self-esteem that men possess when it comes to courting the fairer sex.
Women are finally starting to recognize that quiet guy at the end of the bar or the shy guy who sits in the corner and doesn’t really say much. The man who makes eye contact yet never actually steps up to initiate a conversation. Do girls like shy guys who don’t make a bold move? Well, a lot of the answer to this question has to do with the setting and the guy’s body language.
Men Love Shy Women.
You’re sitting at the end of the bar and there are many attractive women giving you that alluring stare, but for some strange reason you just can’t take your eyes of that girl sitting in the corner trying to look as though she isn’t even there. She has a certain hold on you that the others can’t match, and she is doing nothing to bring attention to herself. It’s just one more curious thing that men tend to think about as to why men love shy women.
Wanting – a universal feeling that gets us in trouble, most of the time. For instance, drinking, how many times have you ever told yourself : I will never do this again and how many times have you broken that promise?! Shopping, same concept, how many times have you returned these items afterwards?! Men, there is nothing wrong with WANTING a man, the tricky part is to make him WANT you. It seems to me that the question “How to make a man want a woman” is basically “How to be the perfect woman”. Since perfection is subjective, a perfect woman is simply put “mythical” just like “the ivory girl” from the Greek mythology.
Is it a soft no or a definite NO, is it a flirty no or an aggressive NO! Signs that do need to be taken into consideration! Besides that, the surroundings, the events prior to that question or lack thereof and of course her mood. Don’t approach a lady in a bad mood! I can say, with a 99.9% certainty the answer will be NO and it will be an aggressive NO for that matter, one that might involve unwanted adjectives being thrown your way.. OUCH!
In today’s high tech world having a great smile and a mysterious personality won’t get you as far with the fairer sex as it used to. It now seems that the majority of interaction between men and women takes place on a small screen, compliments of mega-corporations such as APPLE OR Samsung. So, even if you have no problem burning up your Giga bytes of data on apps such as Skype, WhatsApp or Facetime you will still need to boost your texting skills with women in order to break through their personal cyber defenses in order to pursue them.
The idea of dating women who make more money than men creates a rift in the traditional role of man to woman, as seen through the eyes of man.
Throughout history, man’s role was to be the provider, the breadwinner as it may in the relationship. It was, and still is an important role, for the male’s ego which bruises quite easily. Making money is still of the utmost importance to the male who identify that with success. A female that equals or surpasses a man in terms of salary may very well threaten his ego and manifest itself through anger and frustration (brought on, no doubt, by jealousy).
Since time began men and women have been desperately trying to figure out the best ways to get noticed by one another, and have always come away with mixed results. Men may seem too aggressive if they make the first move yet a woman may seem almost desperate if she initiates contact. It always seems that the more attractive the woman, the less chance of her initiating the process of getting to know each other. But here are 5 reasons why a woman should make the first move on a man, in no specific order:
To answer that question, both the male and female must realize what their goals are. For example, is it to be a long term relationship, a fling, an arrangement? These are variables involved. Do you react through one’s genitalia or take the time to experience real love? It’s not always easy to decide about Love and Chemistry, and which one counts more?