Quite often relationships are like roller coasters.  Sometimes you are riding high with excitement and anticipation while at other times you may be heading for fast ride to the bottom. Thank goodness people are not roller coasters and there are plenty of ways that you can keep from experiencing that downward spiral and put the joy back into your relationship, or at least slow it down so you can get a better idea of what is causing the problem. We have identified several smile tips to help you regain some of the spark in your relationship and enjoy the time sent with your partner.

In your journey to rediscover all those things that made the two of you fall for each other in the first place let’s remember that relationships are like a double edged sword, one side can give you incredible happiness while the other…well… not so much. So let’s concentrate on the positive aspects and how they can be improved and enhanced.

If you’ve ever watched television and tuned into the romantic comedies or dramas you’ve probably heard the phrase “don’t go to bed angry.” Although this may be a bit campy it also is a great habit to get into. If you can clear the air about something that is bothering you before you go to bed you can then start the next day free from the heavy weight of whatever was bothering you. It not only frees you from excessive stress but your partner also now knows that something was wrong and the two of you can work on fixing it rather than letting it annoy and grow worse.

Building on what was just mentioned communication is the glue that can take a bad situation and make it possibly better. When couples begin to have problems they often begin to move further apart at a time when they should be trying to get closer. When you are angry or alienated about a particular issue it is vitally important to the relationship to discuss everything in order to keep from slipping into a worse state of mind.

Remember that no one is perfect and at times all of us are going to get into an argument with our partner, the key is that if you are actually at fault own up to it and figure out how to fix it. Arguments are normal and unless you did something so terrible there is usually a fix for it. For those that have done something that cannot be forgiven, at least by your partner, well, hey, you made the choice to do it and must pay the consequences.

Sex is often a great fix for relationships, but the simple act of sex is not the cure, it is merely one step in putting the spark back in your relationship. If your sex lives are purely based on raw animal passion, perhaps it’s time to put a bit more feelings into it and let other emotions control the moment.

In many ways relationship advice is mostly about you. How you deal with your emotions and feelings. No one person should be able to make you something that you are not. You need to be strong so that a relationship can only make you feel better. It should not be able to diminish your self-esteem. You need to be able to determine if your relationship just needs a little boost or there are more serious underlying issues at work. You may not be able to identify this on your own and may want family or friends or even a trained professional to assist.  The point is that there is a spark already burning in your relationship, you just need to figure out the best way to fan it back to full flame!

 

Commitment phobic men can they commit

If you stop to think about it, dating is really kind of easy once you get through the initial fear or nervousness of actually asking someone out.  It’s quite often just sitting at a restaurant or some other venue talking and getting to know one another better. However, this whole concept of talking is lost on many people as words do come out of their mouths but what is said can often do more harm than good for any budding relationship. We are going to offer you some great advice on what topics should never be talked about on a date.

 

1. Any discussions about your ex should be completely and totally off limits, nothing good can come of it. Even if the person you are with asks you about your past relationship the best response is usually something like “sorry, but it’s something I just don’t like talking about.” Even the slightest hints about past relationships usually snowball into something more which usually ends up hurting a currently potential relationship.

 

2. In today’s politically charged climate, discussions of politics are not meant to be part of the dating ritual. You should pretty well already know a bit about the person you are out with and if you are on polar opposite sides of the political spectrum than you may as well pay the check and bid a hasty retreat from wherever you are. It seems nobody can keep a civil tongue about politics lately so unless you thrive on arguing, let this topic pass.

 

3. Talking about religion on a first or second date is usually not a great idea. If you had met at a church or temple function than you already know the depth of the other person’s beliefs and are probably on the same page as they are, however religion as a dating topic can turn ugly fast and you may not know how deep the other person’s faith runs or what their actual beliefs are. Steer clear of this topic unless it becomes necessary.

 

4. Discussions of sex and sexual experience are another poor choice of topics for dating small talk as they often can portray you as something you are not, they can also make you seem a bit pervy or slutty. This can either turn your date off very quickly or make them think that the relationship can only exist on a physical level.

 

5. Money or wealth are bad dating talk topics too. Talking about how much money you make makes you seem like you are an egotist and may come off as how you can buy whatever you need but may have no worthy personality to back it up. Talking about how little you earn may cause the other person to think that you can’t even pay your bills which could cause a great deal of stress in any pending romance.

 

Of course there are many other topics that should be off limits in the early stages of dating, which is why you need to take your time and get a good read on the other person. In just a short time you should be able to determine what topics are fair game and which should be off limits. Sometimes you both may be on the same page on some of these discussion topics in which case go for it! But in general, take your time and get to know the person slowly and save things for future dates. These dating and relationship topics for dates are not set in stone, just good ideas to make sure that you get to someone better before throwing caution to the wind.

 

Let’s be real for a second, not every person you meet online is going to rock your world and be the perfect person for you. But is every person that comes up to you in a night club or restaurant going to be the “the one”? Probably not, however the chances of you finding the perfect man for you are probably a lot better online than randomly running into that person in one of your favorite meeting places. Let’s look at some the best reasons that online dating works so well for women.

Our time and energy as well as finances are generally in short supply in this day and age so any method by which we can be efficient, effective and less expensive is usually a good place to begin. The rise of Internet dating has given women the chance to accomplish all of these things without having to leave the comfort and security of their own homes. Why spend so much time at night spots talking to men with whom you eventually realize that you have nothing in common with when you can target those with whom you may have serious relationship potential before you even begin a conversation?

Still not sure about the value of a good online dating site? Here are just a view of the best reasons to join a quality online dating site. The cast of characters for you to look at is enormous! You can read the profiles and look at the pictures of hundreds of men in just a few hours to find those you may be interested in. How much time and effort would you need to put in to do this in person? Also, you are no longer limited to merely your local area, you can browse the profiles of men from any locations you feel the urge to look at. Your choices are basically limitless.

Let’s remember that as you are browsing the profiles of various men, they will be looking at your profile as well. This gives you the opportunity to describe yourself the way you see fit. If you feel your profile is not getting you the responses you had hoped for, you can just change it up in a few key strokes and try something new. Many women are a bit reluctant to talk about themselves in person but thanks to online dating profiles you can be as brave and outgoing as you desire without immediately having to do this face to face. This works well for those who may be shy or reluctant to make the first move in person.

What do you know about a person when you first meet them in the traditional way? You can see his appearance, his age and that’s pretty much it. As a member of an online dating site you can what city he lives in, his age, religion, education and possibly a great many other elements of who that person is. Think about how much time this saves you in weeding out those you would normally take a great deal of time getting to know only to realize this is not the person for you. This doesn’t mean you won’t have to clear out some undesirables from your online activities as well, but you will be weeding out those that actually do have some of your desired criteria in a partner.

Online dating has certainly become the women’s choice when it comes to finding the right person for them. It is not only about the efficiency and effectiveness about meeting people online, it is also about the safety and security of getting to know someone before you have to encounter them face to face. By meeting such a higher volume of potential partners that are basically already pre-screened for the criteria you deem most important, your chances of meeting that perfect person is greatly increased. After all, isn’t meeting the right person for you what it’s really all about?

 

 

I’ve seen some people that can chat up a storm at any club or night spot yet fail miserably when trying to flirt with someone they met online. This is pretty puzzling as the same reasons that make a person successful in person are the ones that work best for flirting online, with the obvious exception of appearance. In both the online and in-person situations one of the most important things to understand is the concept of “feedback.” This is being able to take certain cues from the other person and then knowing how to respond. When responding to the other person’s messages you need to find a balance between being the suave or sophisticated bad boy and the shy or introverted nerd. Going too far in either direction can mean a short and unsuccessful chat session. Feedback, or reactions to your messages should allow you to find the proper balance for this particular situation.

So, now that you are armed with a computer, mouse and a lot of hope you are ready to navigate the wild world of flirting online and with any luck at all it may turn into something more. Here are some of the best tips for flirting online, just be yourself and remember that the other person does not have the benefit of seeing your body movement or gestures so keep that in mind when chatting.

One of the best tips for flirting online is to have fun! Meeting new people should make you smile but even more than that it should make the person you are flirting with smile too. Have fun and enjoy the moment. The key to all online flirting is to make both of you want to do it again! There are thousands of people who want to chat online so you need to be entertaining enough to make others want to flirt with you instead of the competition!

Now you have to figure out what it is about you that makes others enjoy your online company. Some people are just naturally funny while others radiate confidence. If you are happy, funny and confident chances are you have what it takes to be successful in the online dating game. After all, who wants to be with someone who has the personality of a turnip!

Having confidence does not give you a license to be a rude overbearing twit. Use common sense and pick up on cues that the other person sends out. If you are hoping for some more intimate banter then you better make sure the other person has hinted in some way that they are open to this as well. If you hear a lot of silence after attempts of driving the conversation in that direction with several people, it is a great indication you are doing something wrong and should change your strategies.

All the success you hope to have in flirting online depends upon one thing, how good you are at paying attention to what the other person says and offering appropriate feedback that makes that person feel that you really understand them and are genuinely interested about what they have to say.

Finally, if all went well, you have probably gotten some alternative means of contacting that person or at least an indication that they hope to hear from you again on whatever website the both of you frequent. Don’t be shy about sending that person an email at some point soon after expressing the fact that you enjoyed chatting with them and are looking forward to getting to know them better.

Take things at slow and steady pace and your evening of flirting online can turn into a lot more than either of you might have expected.

Online dating has been around for… well, for as long as the internet has been an inevitable part of our everyday life. And although thousands and thousands of successful marriages started out as a simple hello via some form of an online chat forum or a dating website, many single men still don’t know what the effective formula for chatting up a girl online is.

Four out of ten girls with online dating profiles say they have been inappropriately contacted at least once by a male online dater, and we at SugarDaddie.com are here to try and reduce this percentage as much as possible.

This is exactly why we decided to delve a bit deeper into the art of online dating and provide you with some useful tips on how to start a conversation with a girl online.

Here are some useful and actionable tips that can improve your odds quite a bit:

Don’t write an essay as your first message

When initiating contact online, it is crucial to keep your first message short and as concise as possible. Your first message should not be intimidating (I just realized there’s dating in intimidating, go figure). Instead, it should pique her interest.

If you write 20 sentences about yourself as your first message, it is highly unlikely that she will write back, or even read the whole thing, for that matter.

But, the question is – is there a sweet spot when it comes to the length of your first message, or even a ballpark?

According to people around us, there is!

This online dating behemoth claims that 200 characters is the ideal length for your first message to a girl, so make sure you keep it light.

Correct grammar is hot!

In other words, forget modern netspeak like “r u free on fri?”

Although we live in a fast-paced world in which phone calls are slowly but surely becoming obsolete and texting is taking over, and even though we all have extremely busy schedules that are often quite time-consuming, you still can’t resort to the overuse of modern abbreviations.  

Yes, using fewer words to get your message across can sometimes be very useful, but chatting up a girl online is not the occasion for this method.

Remember, proper grammar and right punctuation can indeed go a long way.

Humor and wittiness are making a comeback

Trust us, if you manage to make a woman laugh, you’re halfway there. Do some background research on what she likes in terms of movies and TV shows, and open with a witty reference that will intrigue her and put you in a good light.

This one can be a bit harder to pull off, since you either have a good sense of humor or you don’t, but this is something you can work on.

Being humble and honest is key

According to the recent  survey men who come off as honest and don’t boast about themselves right from the start have much more success in the online dating game. Simply don’t lie about any aspect of your persona, be yourself, and your chances will improve right off the bat.

A genuine compliment (but the right one) can go a long way

Who doesn’t like to be complimented, right? Women love it, but this is an extremely tricky ground on which you tread, my friend. If you do it right, you will definitely be one step closer to an actual date with her, but if you mess it up, you’re probably gone for good.

Make sure you avoid compliments like: I think you’re hot/sexy/smokin’/etc.

Call To Action (CTA)

In the world of online marketing, CTA is one of the most common and most widely-spread tricks to get readers to click on the desired link. So, why not use it in online dating as well? I mean, it does work!

One of the best ways to trigger a response from a girl online is to ask her an interesting question. Don’t be too nosy, though. Intimate questions are a huge red flag, especially if you are at the very beginning of your conversation with her.

A simple: What do you think of Wes Anderson’s movies? will do the trick. If she says that she loves his work, you two will click immediately. If she asks: Who’s that?; You have an opportunity to introduce her to one of the greatest filmmakers of modern cinema. If, however, she answers: I don’t like his movies; it is, perhaps, time to chat up someone else.  

So, there you go fellas – 6 useful tips on how to start a conversation with a girl online. Do you think we forgot to mention some cool tips on this matter? Feel free to leave a comment below! And don’t forget to visit SugarDaddie.com for more useful articles like this one.

In the world of online dating etiquette, when to meet in person is one of the trickiest and most asked questions, and for a good reason. As one of the most hilarious online memes suggests: on the internet nobody knows you’re a dog.

And although this is an issue that needs to be approached in a serious manner, with the right pointers and a few nudges in the right direction, you will be able to determine if the person you are chatting with online is someone you should actually meet in real life.

Here are some of the crucial things you should know before moving things from the online to the offline realm.

TIP No. 1: Conduct Thorough Research On the Person first

We don’t have to tell you that safety comes first and foremost, but we’re going to do it anyway. As we said earlier, the Internet can be a tricky place and you need to be careful if you’re seeking a partner via online dating. When to meet in person is, because of this, one of the most talked about subjects about this type of love searching, and the very first step you need to do is do a research on the person you’re chatting with before you even bring up the possibility of meeting up in person.

Find out if the two of you have mutual friends on social media platforms. If you do, inquire about that person with them. Ask about certain basic details about the person, like:

• Home city
• Current address
• Job
• Personal interests
• Previous love interests

TIP No. 2: Make Sure You Feel Comfortable

If everything from the first tip checks out, it is time to chat some more and develop a certain kind of online relationship in which you feel comfortable enough. Some people like to wait until they are 100% certain in their decision.

Overall sense of comfort is what you are looking for.

TIP No. 3: Arrange a Meeting ASAP

Once you do feel the desired level of comfort and confidence, we suggest you meet as soon as possible. From our own experience, we at SugarDaddie.com know that waiting too long can be extremely counter-productive.

Modern world is an extremely fast-paced one. This is also true for online dating. When to meet in real life can indeed vary from person to person, but the general rule of thumb is to speed things up as much as possible and meet up as soon as you feel positive that person is trustworthy.

However, according to Stacie Ikka, an experienced online dating coach and professional matchmaker, meeting up literally ASAP is a much better idea.

“Meet them with as little online communication as possible. You can’t get a feel for someone from behind your computer screen,” Ikka says. “You can make inferences and form opinions, but the only way to know for sure if there is chemistry (or the potential for chemistry) is to meet them in person and get a sense for their IRL vibe.  From there, you can see how your vibe gels with their vibe.”

She also warns that waiting too long to meet in person and chatting for longer periods of time can provide you with a false sense of being in a relationship.

“It’s very easy to find yourself in a non-relationship that feels like a real relationship when you’re playing the get-to-know-you game online,” Ikka suggests. “As the messages are ping-ponging back and forth, hopes are getting higher, expectations are being set, ideals are being realized, pedestals are being elevated, and people are securely on those pedestals.”

Wrapping up

We at Sugar Daddie agree with her. If you feel comfortable right away and all the background researches do check out, you should break the ice quickly and ask him/her to go out in public. Only then will you know for sure if the two of you are truly compatible.

If, however, the person strongly disagrees to comply for no apparent reasons, that should be a huge red flag for you.

What are your takes on this issue and have you ever had a bad experience that could be edifying to our readers? Feel free to leave a comment below.  

Dating is never a walk in the park. Well, ok, sometimes it is literally that, but here we are talking about that figurative walk in the park that is almost always calm, relaxing and most of all, easy.

Unlike dating.  

We’ve all had bad dates and horrible relationships, and we’ve all reached out for the help from our friends and family, but this reaching out for help can often be a double-edged sword. Of course, there are people in your life that are experienced enough to provide you with quality tips about relationships in general, but bad dating advice – especially when taken seriously and executed poorly – can indeed do more harm than good.

We at Sugar Daddie wanted to delve a bit deeper into this issue and find out which dating tips have reached the worst dating advice status on the modern dating scene, and try to point them out to you so you don’t make the mistakes that might end your relationship for good.  

Here are 7 pieces of bad dating advice that we encourage you not to follow.

“Play tricky mind games with him/her.”

Although teasing and harmless yanking of his/her chain can be cute and make your connection even stronger, love-related mind games can indeed be tricky and very counter-productive. It doesn’t matter if your friend managed to land a partner by showing affection one day and then utterly ignoring them the day after, we strongly recommend you steer clear of this type of strategy.

Just put yourself in those shoes and see how you would feel if someone you like started to play with your emotions…

“Problems tend to solve themselves out over time.”

No relationship is perfect and free of any issues and conflicts. And if a couple tries to convince you that they never fight, be sure that they are lying.

This is why ignoring problems within your relationship is never a good idea. Our advice is to deal with any problems right away and hit them head on, for only then will you be able to properly and in a healthy way resolve the issues you have.

“Don’t call him/her right away. Wait a few days.”

Ah, so many potentially great relationships never even happened because of this stupid strategy… And for some reason, this tip continues to live on for ages. Texting or calling your date the next day is perfectly normal, especially if your date the previous evening went well. We need to figure out once and for all that the playing hard to get tactic most often backfires on the one that is trying to implement it.

Those days are long gone, folks. Modern dating scene is fast and furious and there’s no time to be wasted.

“Show him/her that you’re the boss right away.”

Another worst dating advice candidate right here. First of all, as soon as there’s any kind of disbalance in a relationship between the two love partners, various types of issues may emerge. Your relationship should be a leveled playing field and no one should assume the position of “the boss” in it. That’s just a recipe for full-on destruction.

Mutual respect and understanding is always the way to go.

“Don’t be too revealing about your feelings, desires, and plans.”

If you are planning a serious relationship with that special someone, you must be open and honest about your deepest feelings and desires, but also your plans for the future. Taking things slow is ok, but never keep all the things that make you who you are just for yourself. That’s just plain selfish and will only destroy whatever you have with your partner.

Make sure you keep your cards out on the table, for only then will the two of you manage to stay on the same page.  

“Always make yourself available to him/her.”

Spending time together is crucial, but having time for yourself is just as important in a serious relationship. Finding the balance between these two can be tricky, but anyone can do it with a little effort and good communication.

“Demand your partner to be romantic, always.”

Romance is fun and necessary, but it dissipates over time. The honeymoon phase is beautiful, but there’s no honeymoon that lasts forever. And demanding romance is never healthy. If it doesn’t come naturally, it should not be forced.

What is your favorite worst dating advice that you almost took? Feel free to mention it in the comments section below. Also, don’t hesitate to check out sugardaddie.com for the best that comes from the world of sugar dating!  

Asking someone to go on a date is sometimes tricky

Especially if you are not used to taking that small step. Most of the time its about being comfortable with a few things, rejection and the ability to go back and ask again. Unless you’re blessed with Paul Newman’s mid life looks or the charisma of Bruce Willis, you’re going to have to expect the occasional knock back.

A good way is to find some middle ground, get some insight into the other persons interests, and if you’re being genuine in your enthusiasm for what they are about, your body language will give off some excellent, positive signals. Women who tend to express their interest in a man give away certain signals in their body language, touching the neck is one and playing with their hair is another. For men, its genuine laughter and they will know want to know more about you.

Its important to be in touch with what’s happening beyond the words. To get a successful response to asking someone out on a date is often about knowing when the right time is to ask. You’ll hear of many other places and situations, where they say, timing is everything. Remember, in most situations, to get the outcome your looking for, you’ll probably get the one chance, so make sure you choose the moment to do it wisely.

Stepping Out Of The Comfort Zone

We all enjoy dwelling in our comfort zone where we feel safe and think that almost nothing can hurt us. But, the truth is – the real magic happens out of your comfort zone. Zappa once said “without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible.” This is especially true when it comes to our social literacy and the art of online dating.

But knowing how and when to tastefully approach the person you find attractive is important. The best advice normally comes from generations back. They’ve been down this road more than we have, and so the golden rule is to be your self. Smile, be confident and for men looking to date a woman, getting her to laugh will open the doors of possibility wider. So it is up to you to create one.

It is up to you to take a calculated leap of faith and dive in.

In order to do this, you need to test the waters first and slowly lead into topics that get conversation off of the ground. Interests are key, it’s important that the topic is about who you want to date. What they are interested in. Everyone’s favorite topic is themselves, so be sure to show real interest. When you feel you’ve clicked and there’s chemistry between the two of you this maybe the time to suggest going out sometime.

Of course, since this is just the beginning of your re-directing of the conversation, make sure you don’t go too far during this phase. Instead, start with something light rather than immediately rolling into the any political opinions or discussion about how unwell you have been recently. Keep things upbeat and always show that you are paying attention to what is being talked about.  Showing interest is key, people are often flattered that want to know more.

Remember eye contact, people are able to read your eyes, and your intentions behind them. A small percentage of how you communicate comes from the words alone. Asking someone for a date is as easy or as complicated as you want to make it, but to take the clean, clear path will often flatter and attract because of confidence.

Transitioning To “The Good Stuff”

Stepping out of the comfort zone is part and parcel of asking someone out. It only becomes easier the more comfortable we become with doing it, and we only become more comfortable by doing it. Dating is an action-based activity, you’ve got to be part of that process to be able to do it successfully.

NOTE: As you’ve probably already noticed, we are approaching this topic neither from a male nor from a female perspective, but this article in the eyes of some may suggest its more on the male asking the woman out for a date. This would seemingly be correct as this is often how the activity goes. Some women will never ask, some will, but often its seen as the male role.

So, if the person you want to date is near you, be brave approach and say hi. Have a small idea of how you would like the conversation to go. Be prepared, be confident, be interested and most importantly, be yourself.

 

 

 

It is never easy to be on the receiving end of a breakup. Being the one who gets rejected is extremely tough and it can indeed take its toll, but we often forget that rejecting someone can also be excruciatingly hard.

Turning someone down is not an easy task. It can turn into an awkward and intense situation in an instant, while in some cases it can result in overly uncomfortable, even dangerous scenarios.

This is why you need to learn how to tell a guy you don’t like him in a gentle, mature and respectful way. Of course, there is no bulletproof way to do this and some feelings ought to be hurt, but if the man you are breaking up with is truly a good guy with whom you just haven’t clicked, it is always a good and polite idea to know how to reject a guy nicely and end things on friendly terms.

That being said, we at SugarDaddie wanted to give you a quick and effective guide on this rather tricky matter.

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There are two questions that are as old as humanity itself: What is the meaning of life? and How to get women to chase you? If you ask us, these two crucial subjects intertwine quite a bit, and we are here to talk about the latter.  

Contrary to what most men tend to believe, not all women fall for jerks. The ultimate truth is that women like challenges and are more attracted to men they have to win over, and less attracted to men who throw themselves at every beautiful girl who gives them even a smidge of attention. Women want to be able to earn a man’s affection. They want a man who is:

• hard to tame
• not desperate
• not needy

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