Some men feel the need to be kept interested, some men have requirements, some men have demands, good thing for “the some” that don’t. Dedicated to these special cases that do! If the man is one of these that can’t get interested by anything a normal human might be, do yourself a favor find one that will. Most of us, ladies, wouldn’t mind running in our partner’s heads all day and night long ( not that head ). Knowing that he thinks of us, is somewhat arousing, perhaps reassuring too.   

Pressure! Pressure! Pressure!

So true. For some of us, keeping a man interested is second nature. To know the look, to speak the words, to “read” between the lines, to accommodate the most secret desires, yup! All that and more you can always learn in a “school for Geisha’s” but let’s not go that route.Every woman has her own ways of bedazzling, naturally these aren’t shared, NATURALLY! Too much “competition”. Wowing a man is a “complete seasoning”, you do it as a friend as well as a lover, mixing the sex, the routine, the intimacy, the flirtiness and the friendliness. Do not throw all the “glitter” at once. Everyone loves surprises, a little by little will suffice. Annoyance is not one of the goals. Men love, love, love compliments, especially when they know they had failed, just a white lie in that case, won’t hurt anyone, perhaps even make it better. Men like being listened and paid attention to. Offer a listening, understanding ear from time to time.

Honestly, just use honesty, it’s something appreciated by all.

How can I make my man happy in a relationship?. Provide him with the comfort of knowing that he could confide and trust you.  Being a bit nosy, in the sense of showing some interest or curiosity in his job or hobby. Now to the sexy stuff, let’s face it, everyone likes sexy. Dirty talk throughout the day, occasional lustful text message, randomly placed notes with sexual connotations. That will most certainly get him “thinking”. I wouldn’t do it daily, daily turns into routine and routine turns into boring. Romantic surprises. Show him that you want him, these winks, or eye contact, intelligent conversation, snuggling, cuddling yada yada. A new set of lingerie, perhaps a new toy or even position, it isn’t good just for him but for you as well, worst case scenario you can use all that for your next “victim” Bring in the bonding games. Working out together, biking, skating, jumping, laughing, crying, screaming. Plan a trip together into the “unknown” or just a romantic dinner by a fireplace.  In other words, be versatile and creative, use the imagination for the positive, not negative, look forward to making love not war.

How far, is too far when talking PDA? Is PDA important in relationships? Whether “offline” or online, PDA has become more and more acceptable and common. It can be seen in every culture to the extent of acceptable social norms. Being highly subjective, it is affected by one’s background, upbringing, family views, peer influence, as well as one’s personal perception of right and wrong and one’s state of mind at that particular moment. Because PDA is a display of someone’s feelings it is also judged “with” and “by” feelings. In countries with more liberal views, PDA takes on a somewhat sexual note. “Get a room!”

Online social networks are flooded with PDA’s. Emoji’s, images and kisses sent to one another, flood the internet turning the rest of us into unwilling spectators of this free spectacle. Some places are more accepting of PDA’s, places like airports, bus, train stations, basically places of arrivals or departures.  PDA and economic stability are interdependent, an increase in PDA indicates financial instability, subsequently a decrease indicates financial health. Economic disbalance or instability, affects the relationship by making it more vulnerable, immoderate PDA reassures the partners, with the “spectator’s” help. PDA is also an index of one’s relationship progression, usually the beginning of a relationship is marked by an excess of PDA, couples can’t simply keep their hands off of one another. Troubles in a relationship can also increase the PDA, being caused by couples seeking assurance in “spectator’s” eyes that everything is “alright” when the truth is far from it.

PDA has become more open and acceptable throughout the generations, it has evolved from a shy peck or an arm in arm walk to making out in most crowded places. The generations have become more free when indulging in PDA, but has the common sense been affected as well? Just think back in time when you were a child, you’d often get upset or shy when faced with your parents PDA, the first reaction was to turn away or to try and break it up, it seems that same feeling is triggered in adults. PDA is also perceived as a threat to one’s standards, it is somewhat perceived as an infection that will spread among people compelling for more couples to engage in PDA. Often highly emotional charged scenes will force some people to face the disturbing reality of one’s loneliness.

How much is too much when talking PDA?! It does depend on the surroundings, if you found yourselves in any other scene than the club scene then the limit should be guided by the amount of PDA you’d be comfortable with in front of your parents. Overboard PDA often reminds of standing at someone’s doorless bedroom. Not every couple engages in PDA as not everyone feels comfortable placing their most intimate moments on display, as well as not everyone feels the need of doing so either. To some a kiss or even a hug is more than that, it is an expression of dominance and possession, to others it is not even a romance but just showmance.

Brand new relationships, honeymooners, newlyweds tend to live in the moment, creating their own world, isolated from everyone else’s, a world seen by the “spectators” as something pleasant, as it indicates a beginning of a shared path. The feeling usually generated by a pleasant memory or fantasy or even hope. “Stolen” kisses , gentle caresses,tender hugs, arms wrapped around the waist, intertwined fingers, generate the romantic atmosphere that is most likely acceptable in most cultures, having on the opposite side the anti-romance, full on make-out sessions, hands wandering around the most intimate spots which will be perceived with disgust.

Whatever and however the PDA is seen it is first and foremost a hint of intimacy, a cultural phenomenon with limits.

 

Choices.  These are the things that can either make something a great success or something that you may spend a long time shaking your head and wondering what you were thinking. When it comes to dating and relationships some of these choices were made without really thinking and you later wished you had some clue of what choice to make. Well, we can’t help you with any past decisions but we can offer a few tips to help you identify if the person you are considering spending some time with is really worth the effort.

Many people keep making the wrong choices time and time again without realizing that the characteristics of the type of person you always choose are eerily similar.  Usually we know this but still hold out hope that this person will change, why should we hope for a change when we can find the right fit now? Physical attributes are not part of the following tips as they are for a completely different conversation. So, rather than looking at the qualities of the people that are wrong for you, let’s identify some of the traits of those who show definite signs of a promising relationship!

One of the key signs of someone who is good relationship material is if they are financially responsible. If their phone is constantly ringing with bill collectors trying to collect a debt the chances of them being irresponsible in other parts of their life is pretty high as well. Anyone can fall on some difficult times but how they deal with it can show a lot about their character.

Another key indication of their character is how they react to situations and people that are different from them? Those that are tolerant of other lifestyles or races and don’t openly mock and put down those that are not like them are generally open-minded about many things including choices that you may make in your life at some point.

Being open-minded is also a great quality and an excellent sign of a promising relationship as in most relationships some conflict or difference of opinion is sure to arise. Being open to discuss other points of view is important in any lasting relationship.

Yours is not the only opinion that counts when looking for those key signs of a good relationship. If your friends and family seem to like the person you are interested in, it is a good indication that the qualities that this person displays are real and noticeable. People tend to want to be around other good people and if friends enjoy their company it is certain they will have no problems inviting you as a couple to any parties or events that your inner circle attends.

Religion is often a tricky subject when it comes to relationships. Although different views on religion are not always deal breakers, it is usually much easier when the two people share similar faiths. But Even if this isn’t the case be open and tolerant of another’s beliefs is a good sign that two people have a stronger path to a good relationship.

If the person you are involved with is divorced or has children from a previous relationship the way he or she deals with that can definitely give you a good idea how they deal with unanticipated consequences. Taking responsibility is an excellent sign that they will take your relationship seriously as well.

Finding the right person for you is not always easy, it’s kind of like looking for a custom fit in an off the world. But, if you just keep your eyes and ears open and notice the things that are important you should be able to find a relationship that is just perfect for you.

Online dating is here to stay and is growing by leaps and bounds. It is no longer just for some occasional entertainment but for real people to make real life connections that may transform into long-term relationships and possibly even marriage. The bottom line is that online dating is probably the most effective method of meeting people to date.

When men take keyboard and mouse in hand to meet the woman of their dreams there are a few things they need to know, the first is the woman they are chatting with are mostly likely very nervous about meeting a man they don’t actually know. When joining the ranks of the millions of other men who are online dating you need to take the time to let the woman you are interested in feel comfortable enough with you to meet in person. Here are some important things men need to know about successful online dating.

As we mentioned previously, take your time, asking a woman for personal information such as her phone number, address or where she works too soon are sure to get any woman with common sense very nervous. You have a method of contact with her through the dating site so use this until she feels comfortable with you. Don’t push for an in-person meeting, let it happen naturally.  It’s a process, online messages become phone calls and phone calls lead to in person meeting. Let it happen naturally and both of you will be more comfortable about meeting.

Describe yourself as you really are, not how you hope to be or what you think will get the other person to want you. One important thing that men need to know about online dating is that they are MEN! Women will be on guard. Tell the truth about what you look like and what type of career you may have. Lying is the easiest way to push the perfect person for you far out of reach. The truth will always come out, especially if you finally agree to meet and someone she has no idea about shows up.

This whole truth in advertising concept is especially important in the world of online dating yet many men (and women) feel the need to post pictures that are either not actually of them self or are many years old. You’ve lost some hair and gained a few pounds, big frick’n deal! Age and its effects are something that happens to everyone and if you ever plan to meet will become quite evident to the person you were trying to impress. How do you really think it is going to go when you show up looking nothing like your picture that you claimed was recent? Did you really expect that nice woman you were chatting with would overlook the fact that you lied? I really don’t think so. Post lots of pictures or your entire body and clear shots of your faces, include a few of your interests as well as adding some casual dressed and formal ones. This will give a clear portrait of who you really are.

So as your online and phone conversations begin to hint at a real life meeting make sure you offer suggestions that will make her feel at ease. What men need to know about online dating is that making the other person feel comfortable and safe is half the battle. You should be the one to suggest meeting in a very public well-lit place. You may even suggest she bring a friend along. All these little thing will make her feel excited about meeting you, not afraid. These little things will make the experience about getting to know one another, not getting out of there alive!

 

If you’ve been in a relationship that has gone on for any length of time you know that there are bound to be some rough patches along the way.  Things get said that we don’t always mean and on occasion clothes get thrown out of a third story window, okay that only happened once but I lost my favorite shirt during that particular meltdown. The relationship was still solid but it was just one of those rare and avoidable arguments between two strong willed people. But what if there is more to it than just a rough patch and an avoidable argument, what if there is really a significant underlying problem. The signs your relationship is having some trouble are usually pretty obvious…to everybody else.  So here are some

warning signs to recognize if your relationship is in trouble. At what point your relationship may not be worth saving is completely up to you, but if you identify a lot of these in your relationship, it may be time to start thinking about trying something different.

Is a major topic of conversation with family and friends about your relationship, and most of the discussion is of a negative tone? This is often one of the early signs that there may be some issues at home that need addressing. This is often accompanied by significant personality change in which you start feeling like your confidence and self-respect has increasingly diminished.

Another key indication that your relationship is in trouble is when you start finding reasons to do activities without your partner. It may be something as ordinary as going to the gym or meeting friends for a cooking class, but the point is that you are becoming more comfortable doing such activities on your own and generally feel stressed when doing these things with your partner.

Have you found that you and your partner are telling little white lies more and more often? Are these little lies becoming of more significance and are now at the point where trust has become a major issue in your relationship? Trust is a key element of any successful relationship.

Signs that your relationship is in trouble usually starts with small things and grows into things that only a marriage counselor or a restraining order can fix. Quite often small things that can be fixed with just a bit of constructive conversation grow into full blow screaming matches for no apparent reason other than the sight and sound of your partner irritates you. Basically things that are for all intents and purposes meaningless give way to intense confrontation.

There comes a point at which these issues become mostly irreversible and often those involved in the relationship tend to find comfort in other people. The phrase “any port in a storm” comes to mind. By this time most have already mentally checked out of the relationship and are just finding ways to cover their butts in regards to finances and personal property. The situation becomes even more complicated and tragic if there are also children involved.

There is a huge difference between identifying the signs that your relationship is in trouble and know how to fix a bad relationship. You also need to think about how to decide if a relationship is worth saving.  These are things that only you can determine but hopefully some the tips on identifying the signs of a bad relationship in this article will help you move forward in a positive and happy way so you can put the sparks back in your relationship.

 

Quite often relationships are like roller coasters.  Sometimes you are riding high with excitement and anticipation while at other times you may be heading for fast ride to the bottom. Thank goodness people are not roller coasters and there are plenty of ways that you can keep from experiencing that downward spiral and put the joy back into your relationship, or at least slow it down so you can get a better idea of what is causing the problem. We have identified several smile tips to help you regain some of the spark in your relationship and enjoy the time sent with your partner.

In your journey to rediscover all those things that made the two of you fall for each other in the first place let’s remember that relationships are like a double edged sword, one side can give you incredible happiness while the other…well… not so much. So let’s concentrate on the positive aspects and how they can be improved and enhanced.

If you’ve ever watched television and tuned into the romantic comedies or dramas you’ve probably heard the phrase “don’t go to bed angry.” Although this may be a bit campy it also is a great habit to get into. If you can clear the air about something that is bothering you before you go to bed you can then start the next day free from the heavy weight of whatever was bothering you. It not only frees you from excessive stress but your partner also now knows that something was wrong and the two of you can work on fixing it rather than letting it annoy and grow worse.

Building on what was just mentioned communication is the glue that can take a bad situation and make it possibly better. When couples begin to have problems they often begin to move further apart at a time when they should be trying to get closer. When you are angry or alienated about a particular issue it is vitally important to the relationship to discuss everything in order to keep from slipping into a worse state of mind.

Remember that no one is perfect and at times all of us are going to get into an argument with our partner, the key is that if you are actually at fault own up to it and figure out how to fix it. Arguments are normal and unless you did something so terrible there is usually a fix for it. For those that have done something that cannot be forgiven, at least by your partner, well, hey, you made the choice to do it and must pay the consequences.

Sex is often a great fix for relationships, but the simple act of sex is not the cure, it is merely one step in putting the spark back in your relationship. If your sex lives are purely based on raw animal passion, perhaps it’s time to put a bit more feelings into it and let other emotions control the moment.

In many ways relationship advice is mostly about you. How you deal with your emotions and feelings. No one person should be able to make you something that you are not. You need to be strong so that a relationship can only make you feel better. It should not be able to diminish your self-esteem. You need to be able to determine if your relationship just needs a little boost or there are more serious underlying issues at work. You may not be able to identify this on your own and may want family or friends or even a trained professional to assist.  The point is that there is a spark already burning in your relationship, you just need to figure out the best way to fan it back to full flame!

 

Commitment phobic men can they commit

If you stop to think about it, dating is really kind of easy once you get through the initial fear or nervousness of actually asking someone out.  It’s quite often just sitting at a restaurant or some other venue talking and getting to know one another better. However, this whole concept of talking is lost on many people as words do come out of their mouths but what is said can often do more harm than good for any budding relationship. We are going to offer you some great advice on what topics should never be talked about on a date.

 

1. Any discussions about your ex should be completely and totally off limits, nothing good can come of it. Even if the person you are with asks you about your past relationship the best response is usually something like “sorry, but it’s something I just don’t like talking about.” Even the slightest hints about past relationships usually snowball into something more which usually ends up hurting a currently potential relationship.

 

2. In today’s politically charged climate, discussions of politics are not meant to be part of the dating ritual. You should pretty well already know a bit about the person you are out with and if you are on polar opposite sides of the political spectrum than you may as well pay the check and bid a hasty retreat from wherever you are. It seems nobody can keep a civil tongue about politics lately so unless you thrive on arguing, let this topic pass.

 

3. Talking about religion on a first or second date is usually not a great idea. If you had met at a church or temple function than you already know the depth of the other person’s beliefs and are probably on the same page as they are, however religion as a dating topic can turn ugly fast and you may not know how deep the other person’s faith runs or what their actual beliefs are. Steer clear of this topic unless it becomes necessary.

 

4. Discussions of sex and sexual experience are another poor choice of topics for dating small talk as they often can portray you as something you are not, they can also make you seem a bit pervy or slutty. This can either turn your date off very quickly or make them think that the relationship can only exist on a physical level.

 

5. Money or wealth are bad dating talk topics too. Talking about how much money you make makes you seem like you are an egotist and may come off as how you can buy whatever you need but may have no worthy personality to back it up. Talking about how little you earn may cause the other person to think that you can’t even pay your bills which could cause a great deal of stress in any pending romance.

 

Of course there are many other topics that should be off limits in the early stages of dating, which is why you need to take your time and get a good read on the other person. In just a short time you should be able to determine what topics are fair game and which should be off limits. Sometimes you both may be on the same page on some of these discussion topics in which case go for it! But in general, take your time and get to know the person slowly and save things for future dates. These dating and relationship topics for dates are not set in stone, just good ideas to make sure that you get to someone better before throwing caution to the wind.

 

Let’s be real for a second, not every person you meet online is going to rock your world and be the perfect person for you. But is every person that comes up to you in a night club or restaurant going to be the “the one”? Probably not, however the chances of you finding the perfect man for you are probably a lot better online than randomly running into that person in one of your favorite meeting places. Let’s look at some the best reasons that online dating works so well for women.

Our time and energy as well as finances are generally in short supply in this day and age so any method by which we can be efficient, effective and less expensive is usually a good place to begin. The rise of Internet dating has given women the chance to accomplish all of these things without having to leave the comfort and security of their own homes. Why spend so much time at night spots talking to men with whom you eventually realize that you have nothing in common with when you can target those with whom you may have serious relationship potential before you even begin a conversation?

Still not sure about the value of a good online dating site? Here are just a view of the best reasons to join a quality online dating site. The cast of characters for you to look at is enormous! You can read the profiles and look at the pictures of hundreds of men in just a few hours to find those you may be interested in. How much time and effort would you need to put in to do this in person? Also, you are no longer limited to merely your local area, you can browse the profiles of men from any locations you feel the urge to look at. Your choices are basically limitless.

Let’s remember that as you are browsing the profiles of various men, they will be looking at your profile as well. This gives you the opportunity to describe yourself the way you see fit. If you feel your profile is not getting you the responses you had hoped for, you can just change it up in a few key strokes and try something new. Many women are a bit reluctant to talk about themselves in person but thanks to online dating profiles you can be as brave and outgoing as you desire without immediately having to do this face to face. This works well for those who may be shy or reluctant to make the first move in person.

What do you know about a person when you first meet them in the traditional way? You can see his appearance, his age and that’s pretty much it. As a member of an online dating site you can what city he lives in, his age, religion, education and possibly a great many other elements of who that person is. Think about how much time this saves you in weeding out those you would normally take a great deal of time getting to know only to realize this is not the person for you. This doesn’t mean you won’t have to clear out some undesirables from your online activities as well, but you will be weeding out those that actually do have some of your desired criteria in a partner.

Online dating has certainly become the women’s choice when it comes to finding the right person for them. It is not only about the efficiency and effectiveness about meeting people online, it is also about the safety and security of getting to know someone before you have to encounter them face to face. By meeting such a higher volume of potential partners that are basically already pre-screened for the criteria you deem most important, your chances of meeting that perfect person is greatly increased. After all, isn’t meeting the right person for you what it’s really all about?

 

 

I’ve seen some people that can chat up a storm at any club or night spot yet fail miserably when trying to flirt with someone they met online. This is pretty puzzling as the same reasons that make a person successful in person are the ones that work best for flirting online, with the obvious exception of appearance. In both the online and in-person situations one of the most important things to understand is the concept of “feedback.” This is being able to take certain cues from the other person and then knowing how to respond. When responding to the other person’s messages you need to find a balance between being the suave or sophisticated bad boy and the shy or introverted nerd. Going too far in either direction can mean a short and unsuccessful chat session. Feedback, or reactions to your messages should allow you to find the proper balance for this particular situation.

So, now that you are armed with a computer, mouse and a lot of hope you are ready to navigate the wild world of flirting online and with any luck at all it may turn into something more. Here are some of the best tips for flirting online, just be yourself and remember that the other person does not have the benefit of seeing your body movement or gestures so keep that in mind when chatting.

One of the best tips for flirting online is to have fun! Meeting new people should make you smile but even more than that it should make the person you are flirting with smile too. Have fun and enjoy the moment. The key to all online flirting is to make both of you want to do it again! There are thousands of people who want to chat online so you need to be entertaining enough to make others want to flirt with you instead of the competition!

Now you have to figure out what it is about you that makes others enjoy your online company. Some people are just naturally funny while others radiate confidence. If you are happy, funny and confident chances are you have what it takes to be successful in the online dating game. After all, who wants to be with someone who has the personality of a turnip!

Having confidence does not give you a license to be a rude overbearing twit. Use common sense and pick up on cues that the other person sends out. If you are hoping for some more intimate banter then you better make sure the other person has hinted in some way that they are open to this as well. If you hear a lot of silence after attempts of driving the conversation in that direction with several people, it is a great indication you are doing something wrong and should change your strategies.

All the success you hope to have in flirting online depends upon one thing, how good you are at paying attention to what the other person says and offering appropriate feedback that makes that person feel that you really understand them and are genuinely interested about what they have to say.

Finally, if all went well, you have probably gotten some alternative means of contacting that person or at least an indication that they hope to hear from you again on whatever website the both of you frequent. Don’t be shy about sending that person an email at some point soon after expressing the fact that you enjoyed chatting with them and are looking forward to getting to know them better.

Take things at slow and steady pace and your evening of flirting online can turn into a lot more than either of you might have expected.

Online dating has been around for… well, for as long as the internet has been an inevitable part of our everyday life. And although thousands and thousands of successful marriages started out as a simple hello via some form of an online chat forum or a dating website, many single men still don’t know what the effective formula for chatting up a girl online is.

Four out of ten girls with online dating profiles say they have been inappropriately contacted at least once by a male online dater, and we at SugarDaddie.com are here to try and reduce this percentage as much as possible.

This is exactly why we decided to delve a bit deeper into the art of online dating and provide you with some useful tips on how to start a conversation with a girl online.

Here are some useful and actionable tips that can improve your odds quite a bit:

Don’t write an essay as your first message

When initiating contact online, it is crucial to keep your first message short and as concise as possible. Your first message should not be intimidating (I just realized there’s dating in intimidating, go figure). Instead, it should pique her interest.

If you write 20 sentences about yourself as your first message, it is highly unlikely that she will write back, or even read the whole thing, for that matter.

But, the question is – is there a sweet spot when it comes to the length of your first message, or even a ballpark?

According to people around us, there is!

This online dating behemoth claims that 200 characters is the ideal length for your first message to a girl, so make sure you keep it light.

Correct grammar is hot!

In other words, forget modern netspeak like “r u free on fri?”

Although we live in a fast-paced world in which phone calls are slowly but surely becoming obsolete and texting is taking over, and even though we all have extremely busy schedules that are often quite time-consuming, you still can’t resort to the overuse of modern abbreviations.  

Yes, using fewer words to get your message across can sometimes be very useful, but chatting up a girl online is not the occasion for this method.

Remember, proper grammar and right punctuation can indeed go a long way.

Humor and wittiness are making a comeback

Trust us, if you manage to make a woman laugh, you’re halfway there. Do some background research on what she likes in terms of movies and TV shows, and open with a witty reference that will intrigue her and put you in a good light.

This one can be a bit harder to pull off, since you either have a good sense of humor or you don’t, but this is something you can work on.

Being humble and honest is key

According to the recent  survey men who come off as honest and don’t boast about themselves right from the start have much more success in the online dating game. Simply don’t lie about any aspect of your persona, be yourself, and your chances will improve right off the bat.

A genuine compliment (but the right one) can go a long way

Who doesn’t like to be complimented, right? Women love it, but this is an extremely tricky ground on which you tread, my friend. If you do it right, you will definitely be one step closer to an actual date with her, but if you mess it up, you’re probably gone for good.

Make sure you avoid compliments like: I think you’re hot/sexy/smokin’/etc.

Call To Action (CTA)

In the world of online marketing, CTA is one of the most common and most widely-spread tricks to get readers to click on the desired link. So, why not use it in online dating as well? I mean, it does work!

One of the best ways to trigger a response from a girl online is to ask her an interesting question. Don’t be too nosy, though. Intimate questions are a huge red flag, especially if you are at the very beginning of your conversation with her.

A simple: What do you think of Wes Anderson’s movies? will do the trick. If she says that she loves his work, you two will click immediately. If she asks: Who’s that?; You have an opportunity to introduce her to one of the greatest filmmakers of modern cinema. If, however, she answers: I don’t like his movies; it is, perhaps, time to chat up someone else.  

So, there you go fellas – 6 useful tips on how to start a conversation with a girl online. Do you think we forgot to mention some cool tips on this matter? Feel free to leave a comment below! And don’t forget to visit SugarDaddie.com for more useful articles like this one.