Quite often relationships are like roller coasters. Sometimes you are riding high with excitement and anticipation while at other times you may be heading for fast ride to the bottom. Thank goodness people are not roller coasters and there are plenty of ways that you can keep from experiencing that downward spiral and put the joy back into your relationship, or at least slow it down so you can get a better idea of what is causing the problem. We have identified several smile tips to help you regain some of the spark in your relationship and enjoy the time sent with your partner.
In your journey to rediscover all those things that made the two of you fall for each other in the first place let’s remember that relationships are like a double edged sword, one side can give you incredible happiness while the other…well… not so much. So let’s concentrate on the positive aspects and how they can be improved and enhanced.
If you’ve ever watched television and tuned into the romantic comedies or dramas you’ve probably heard the phrase “don’t go to bed angry.” Although this may be a bit campy it also is a great habit to get into. If you can clear the air about something that is bothering you before you go to bed you can then start the next day free from the heavy weight of whatever was bothering you. It not only frees you from excessive stress but your partner also now knows that something was wrong and the two of you can work on fixing it rather than letting it annoy and grow worse.
Building on what was just mentioned communication is the glue that can take a bad situation and make it possibly better. When couples begin to have problems they often begin to move further apart at a time when they should be trying to get closer. When you are angry or alienated about a particular issue it is vitally important to the relationship to discuss everything in order to keep from slipping into a worse state of mind.
Remember that no one is perfect and at times all of us are going to get into an argument with our partner, the key is that if you are actually at fault own up to it and figure out how to fix it. Arguments are normal and unless you did something so terrible there is usually a fix for it. For those that have done something that cannot be forgiven, at least by your partner, well, hey, you made the choice to do it and must pay the consequences.
Sex is often a great fix for relationships, but the simple act of sex is not the cure, it is merely one step in putting the spark back in your relationship. If your sex lives are purely based on raw animal passion, perhaps it’s time to put a bit more feelings into it and let other emotions control the moment.
In many ways relationship advice is mostly about you. How you deal with your emotions and feelings. No one person should be able to make you something that you are not. You need to be strong so that a relationship can only make you feel better. It should not be able to diminish your self-esteem. You need to be able to determine if your relationship just needs a little boost or there are more serious underlying issues at work. You may not be able to identify this on your own and may want family or friends or even a trained professional to assist. The point is that there is a spark already burning in your relationship, you just need to figure out the best way to fan it back to full flame!
