It is never easy to be on the receiving end of a breakup. Being the one who gets rejected is extremely tough and it can indeed take its toll, but we often forget that rejecting someone can also be excruciatingly hard.
Turning someone down is not an easy task. It can turn into an awkward and intense situation in an instant, while in some cases it can result in overly uncomfortable, even dangerous scenarios.
This is why you need to learn how to tell a guy you don’t like him in a gentle, mature and respectful way. Of course, there is no bulletproof way to do this and some feelings ought to be hurt, but if the man you are breaking up with is truly a good guy with whom you just haven’t clicked, it is always a good and polite idea to know how to reject a guy nicely and end things on friendly terms.
That being said, we at SugarDaddie wanted to give you a quick and effective guide on this rather tricky matter.
Tips On How To Reject A Guy Nicely
Honesty is always the best policy. So, if you just haven’t felt what you hoped you’d feel with that person, don’t come up with white lies in order to protect his feelings. Chances are, he’ll be able to see right through them. Instead, try being honest and simply telling him:
“I’m sorry, I tried to give us a chance and I did have some fun with you, but to be perfectly honest I don’t really feel the chemistry between us. You truly seem like a nice guy, but I think we should just stay friends.”
Of course, not all men will appreciate this approach and accept your rejection with grace, but at least you did the right thing and tried to end things well.
Do It Remotely
Although breaking up with someone over a text or email can seem like a classic coward move, sometimes it can really smooth things up. Contrary to what we like to believe about ourselves, we men have egos that bruise quite easily and are much more emotional than we think. This is why initially ending a relationship with a text can really help you ease the whole process. Write about how you feel first, then when the whole situation sinks in with him, meet up in person, talk about it and end your relationship on good terms.
NOTE: Of course, this goes for fresh relationships only. You wouldn’t want to do this if you’ve been dating someone for years.
Don’t Let Him Change Your Mind And Talk You Into Taking Him Back
If you are 100 percent sure that he is not the right guy for you, make sure you don’t take back your rejection, even if he insists on calling you all the time and is messaging you every day. If you’ve made your decision and you stand by it firmly, don’t let him sweet talk you into changing your mind.
He will almost certainly try to play the guilt card, so make sure you stick to your guns and tell him that his tactic won’t work. If he tries to implement the let’s stay friends routine, and you are totally sure that he doesn’t mean it and that he’ll try to reinitiate the romance, let him know that you are onto him right away.
Don’t Resort To The Avoidance Tactic
Avoiding him is never a good idea. If you think that he’ll get the hint if you decide to simply ignore his calls and messages, you are probably in the wrong. This plan almost always backfires. Most guys, especially the ones with huge egos, can’t move on unless you explicitly break up with them and provide them with a legit reason for it.
So, there you have it gals, a couple of useful tips on how to tell a guy you don’t like him. If you have your own method that has proven effective, do share it with us in the comments section.
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