Online Dating mistakes That Single Women make

Published on 26 Mar 2015 with 0 Comments

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With so many single women making the move from conventional dating to online dating, I think the time has come to lay down some rules on what is and what is not suggested when an eligible girl is composing a profile for herself online.

Visit any online dating site and scroll through the profiles; you will see some that are very ‘vanilla’ and standard with nothing special about them, you will see some that jump right out at you as if the woman were reaching out through the monitor and grabbing you by the shirt collar, and then you will see the profiles that unfortunately, were either thrown together haphazardly or by someone who is not well versed on the subject of ‘selling yourself’. Whichever category you fall into, we offer these do’s and don’ts:

DO use recent photos of yourself – don’t be the one that stands out because she’s wearing knee socks and a beehive hairdo! Also use common sense and consider that your goal in composing this online profile is to attract wealthy men… don’t include a photo of you and your ex; that’s just wrong.

DO be honest in stating your interests but use caution around appearing too overzealous when it comes to how much you love your poodle and how you just finished a knitting class to learn how to make him little sweaters. Of course you want to show exactly who you are, but try to think like a wealthy man and don’t talk about your vintage Barbie collection or how much you love to shop. There is a certain amount of femininity assumed, and if a man likes what you have to say about your personality and what you are looking for, the rest will shine through when the time is right.

DON’T use the space intended for a description of you as an area to type in all your ‘requirements’. In taking on the online dating endeavor, you should keep yourself open to different types of people, perhaps some you had not previously considered in addition to wealthy men. You never know when that special person will read your online profile and if he fills 98% of your requirements but reads the one you don’t like, you may never get the opportunity to engage this person in a meaningful conversation and discover the potential.

Remember, your online profile profile is a marketing tool and you are the product. You need to get the audience to take notice and crave further enlightenment as to who you are. Mentally tease that person to look closer and yearn for more information on you and above all be unique

Sophisticated Single Women

Published on 24 Feb 2015 with 0 Comments


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There are many reasons as to what makes a female beautiful but there’s nothing more attractive than a well cultured sophisticated woman.
What exactly is it about these women that men find so attractive? Well for one thing these ladies tend to be well spoken, cultured and classy.

Dating sophisticated single women can be difficult for some men due to the fact that they’re not going to find such individuals at their local bar or club.
If you want to meet sophisticated women, then you have to go to the places that classy well cultured women frequent.

One popular place where you’re likely to find such individuals would be art galleries and museums.
Many times you can spot cultured sophisticated women browsing through various art exhibits, displays and auctions.

Charity events are a likely place where these classy single females can be seen as many of these individuals tend to be involved in various causes with the intention of making a difference in the lives of people.

Upper class social events, fine restaurants and upscale department stores are a few more likely places where you can spot these elegant, debonair women.

Many sophisticated ladies enjoy visiting other countries and exotic places which means if you intend on dating such a person, be prepared to do some traveling.
For some men this might be an inconvenience but if you have the means to travel, why not enjoy it in the company of a cultured woman.

If you really want to impress these elegant females you can learn to become a wine connoisseur which is a great way of showing these ladies that you too have culture and class.

Taking her to wine testing events is another activity that the two of you can share together and can be quite enjoyable.

Other places you might try taking these sophisticated single women to might be the opera, ballet, theater, famous architectural sites and anything else that is related to the arts.

Some men might find visiting such places intimidating due to the fact that they are not familiar with such sites but this can easily be remedied by educating yourself and taking some classes.

The most important thing to keep in mind when dating these well cultured single women is to be honest and have a good time.

So many of us get caught up with trying to make a good impression that we forget to relax and enjoy the moment. It is only when we are totally comfortable with who we are that we shine and that is when magic happens!

First Thing Men Notice About A Woman

Published on 20 Feb 2015 with 0 Comments

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Have you ever tried to understand what you notice first about women?
So you walk into a cafe or nightclub and there are a crowd of girls sauntering around, what is the first thing you notice about them? Many men find it difficult to recognize the important things or have a misguided view of what is the first thing men notice about women. This article will help you understand not only what is natural to notice first but what you need to observe to decide if you should ask a woman out.

If you are looking just to hook up then after determining how to approach an attractive woman you don’t really need to pay much attention to what is written.
After-all, if you only have one thing on your mind, anything beyond that doesn’t really matter. So for those who want to date or have a relationship with an attractive woman you must journey past the first thing men notice about women, attractiveness, and move to those things of substance.

If you are hoping for a relationship then you really want to know if the woman you are interested in is actually available to date.
Guys do this in many ways and of course the easiest is by paying attention to their jewelry. A woman in a committed relationship usually wears something that indicates a spouse or boyfriend. The wedding ring is the obvious indicator but a necklace, bracelet or even an article of clothing can tell if a woman is available. You just need to be observant without being a stalker.

If you are close enough and can overhear her conversation with her friends you can kill two birds with one stone, her personality and intelligence will become quite evident. Personality and intelligence are two factors that can easily turn casual dating into a relationship. Dating intelligent women or dating women with great personalities is what chemistry is built on.

Another important trait in the first thing that men notice about women is how adventurous a woman is without being dangerous or stupid.
Leaving with you from a club after only meeting you a short time earlier is both dangerous and stupid and most men will consider this a red flag for future dating possibilities. But heading down to the beach with a group of people you know and doing some midnight skinny dipping is a bit different. Women that enjoy rock climbing, scuba diving or jumping out of perfectly good airplanes show that they are open to excitement and if you feel the same way about life this could be a great match.

Age Difference in Relationships| Who really cares?

Published on 18 Feb 2015 with 0 Comments

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You are walking down an upscale boulevard minding your own business and notice a beautiful young woman happily window shopping with her dad, you then notice them embrace and kiss in a manner that was anything but fatherly.

The normal response in mixed company when talking about the age difference in relationships is who really cares? But the truth is that any relationship with a big age difference is going to discreetly be talked about or at least quietly questioned.

Many older successful men like to keep what is commonly referred to as Sugar babies or the Trophy Wife as a significant other. These men, often called Sugar daddies, when seeking a relationship with a significant age difference love the fact that it gives them the illusion of power in the eyes of their peers. Woman who enjoy the same feelings of control over younger men are often identified as Cougars.


What is the maximum age difference?

There are limits to how far a couple can stretch the age difference in a relationship, and many seem to accept the half your age plus seven rule. This would mean that a man 50 years old could date a woman as young as 32, 50/2 + 7 = 32. This formula is just a loose approximation as the age difference dating older men can vary greatly with wealth and the ability to bestow the sugar babies with gifts. This calculation seems to work better with a big age difference when dating younger women or searching for the trophy wife, it seems to be a bit less accepted in regards to Cougars.

Significant age gaps are merely a picture and are subject to individual interpretation, there is no science behind what the proper age limits are for dating or falling in love. The important thing to remember about relationships is they must be treated exclusively on that particular relationship.

Why date someone much older or younger?

One thing that those who enter into relationships with big age differences fail to understand are the actual reasons that someone gets involved in such relationships. It is interesting to note that generally the larger the age gap between two people the greater the likelihood of that union failing. Many say that love has no reason, but quite often in relationships with a big age difference love is not the motivating factor.

There are many reasons for dating a man who is much older such as; the need for a father figure is greater than the need for someone to share intimate moments with. Dating a younger woman may be an attempt to hold onto fading youth, and either gender may look toward an older individual as an effort to acquire some form of financial stability with someone already stable and established.

Dealing with the crowd

Love is not reasonable and it can take you in some very strange directions but the one constant in a true relationship is that are there are genuine feelings involved as well. This is very important as those involved in relationships with big age differences will undoubtedly come into contact with those who have no problems condemning such relationships. True feelings will assist in allowing a couple to disregard or counter any criticism.

How big an age difference is too much?

When dating an older man or woman just realize that there is a point when the age difference is a bit much and should be carefully evaluated, but for the most part if it feels right, go for it, as you are the only one that has to pay the price for a mistake, or will enjoy the benefits of a good relationship. Remember that in different places the age of consent is not the same and you should be aware of this to make sure you have done nothing illegal. Sometimes a big age difference means nothing, but when it transcends generations and the way people look at the world around them it can make a real relationship either difficult or unrealistic

Single Women Enjoy Dating Secure Men

Published on 17 Feb 2015 with 0 Comments

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When it comes to a single woman envisioning a secure man, one of two things comes to her mind: he is financially secure and stable or he is secure and confident in whom he is. If she really lucks out, a woman could hypothetically find a man that is secure in both senses of the word. But what is the big attraction about dating a secure man? Well, if you are a single girl, there are plenty of reasons to seek a man like this out.

With all the day to day chaos of life in general, there is something very reassuring for a single woman to know that her man is financially solid. Financial stability provides for a sense of predictability and routine; something a lot of women thrive on. The idea of being with a man that can provide for not only her, but a future family is a very desirable notion. Given the choice between a man that is secure financially and one that is struggling, living paycheck to paycheck, single women will undoubtedly choose the successful man time and time again. Building a relationship takes work and having the strain of financial instability can detract from establishing that close connection.

There is something sexy and alluring about a man who is very secure in who he is and what he wants out of life. When a single woman encounters such a man, she is quick to strike up a conversation and learn more about his goals and his dreams for the future. A lot of women are born planners and meeting a man who has a plan and direction in his life is a desirable trait. A man that is secure in who he is one that carries himself confidently and this confidence shines through in all he does. Single women are drawn to men that are charismatic and being confident plays a critical role in charisma

Text Only The Nuts And Bolts And No Emotion

Published on 16 Feb 2015 with 0 Comments

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For good or bad, texting has become a way of life and it’s probably not going to go away anytime soon.

How many times have we been at a restaurant, on a bus, the gym or unfortunately even driving along a freeway or stopped at a traffic light only to see someone hard at work punching the keys of their smart phone to send a message? Texting is a convenient method of interacting with another person without actually having to speak with them. It’s especially effective if you want to convey a thought without getting into a lengthy discussion on a subject. But, the problem with texting is that the reader will only see words, they really can’t feel the emotional inflections the person texting is projecting. This can be especially troublesome if this text is of a personal nature and quite often, even with the use of what is called emoticons (little bits of text such as smiley faces) can be misconstrued. For this reason, there are several things that are best left to the voice.

For good or bad, texting has become a way of life

At sleep away camp we used to play a game around the campfire where one person would whisper something into another person’s ear and that person would to the same to another and so on. By the time the message makes it’s way full circle the message has been changed, misinterpreted and convoluted to such a degree that the original message is no longer truly understandable. It’s the same way with texts, the original meaning is never quite as clear as when conveyed by the spoken word and therefore can easily be misconstrued.

So now we know that the written word is subject to interpretation just like when reading a book. If you sit down and read the book you get to put your own spin on things and interpret the book as you see fit. However, if you are listening to a book on tape you are guided completely by the voice and inflections of the narrator. Its also important to understand that most people texting are going more for speed than accuracy and take many shortcuts that are also not always easily understood. The point is that voice inflections and facial cues play a large part in how we convey information to others. If you want accuracy, speak the words.

Also, depending on how you are texting, you are leaving a word trail as to your feelings at any given point in time. These texts can be used against you later on. It’s a simple thing to cut and paste words from a private means of communication to a blog or face book page which depending on the juiciness of the text can spread like wildfire and make your life uncomfortable for a while. Keep private things private!

I prefer to only text short snippets of information to others, such as a phone number, where I am or when I plan to arrive somewhere. Of course that’s not the only type of information people should text, but you get the idea. Peoples emotions tend to usually get the better of them and if it is an emotionally charged text, don’t count on the recipient comprehending the message that you sent

Are Casual Relationships Beating Out Committed Relationships

Published on 01 Oct 2014 with 0 Comments

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Is a Casual relationship beating out Committed Relationships in Modern Society?


In today’s society there seems to be a lot of debate over what is or isn’t a committed or casual relationship. The definitions can be completely different depending upon whom you ask and what their understanding of his or her current relationship is.  Just a few decades ago committed relationships were thought of as those with long-term potential possibly leading to marriage, but today it seems more people are considering themselves in casual relationships than committed.

It’s also important to realize that we are talking about relationships, not just hooking up with a person you met at a club for a one-night stand. Friends with benefits would be closer to what we are speaking about than just hooking up. To have some manner of a relationship usually involves a certain physical or emotional connection but doesn’t necessarily carry with it any pledge of commitment or exclusivity.

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We have just used the word “exclusivity” in a discussion about relationships, but does a committed relationship automatically denote an exclusive relationship? In today’s society many people consider exclusive to mean just having the physical end of the relationship with one person. If that is so, does committed mean that the emotional part of the relationship is exclusive but the physical may not be?  Sex, or actually what happens after sex seems to be what really changes the classifications between casual and committed relationships.

Casual relationships are not platonic relationships either, as an intimacy without a deeper emotional bond is basically sex for the sake of sex with little regard for anything beyond that aspect of being together. There is no demand on time or emotions and any expectations are kept to a minimum. Just a reminder that casual sex can be thought of as no expectations of any kind and a repeat performance is neither required nor expected. We are talking about relationships. Casual relationships or “Friends With Benefits” are in fact relationships and there is some expectation of mutual support beyond the bedroom for some period of time, but one can be in several of these types of relationships simultaneously.

A committed relationship brings with it some mutually agreed upon code of conduct. It may involve physical or emotional exclusivity, as it’s a commitment between two people to be equally restricted in some fashion for the foreseeable future.  Stability is a key concept in this type of relationship along with mutual respect.

It may seem that in the modern world the fear of commitment seems to push more people towards the casual relationship allowing them to leave their options open to other possibilities. Sometimes people are hoping for the bigger and better deal such as the richer man or the better looking woman, but what it really comes down to is overcoming the fear of missing out on something. Most who are in casual relationships are committed to one another in some fashion. Imagine that you claim you are in such a relationship and your partner is out on a date with someone else, how would that make you feel? Casual relationships aren’t really beating out committed ones; it’s more like those involved are too fearful to admit they are in one.

Online dating and Peeing in the Pool; Everyone does it but none admit to it!

Published on 30 Sep 2014 with 0 Comments

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Online dating and Peeing in the Pool; Everyone does it but none admit to it!


Okay, we have now gotten a good laugh from the title of this article, but if you really begin to think about it there actually are similarities. First, everyone at one time or another has peed in a swimming pool, despite rumors that there is a chemical in the water that will turn blue if someone is urinating. No one will admit to it, but they still do it. Online dating is very much the same in that almost everyone has a profile on some dating site but few admit to it. Have you met anyone that has connected through an online dating site? If so, do they readily admit to it or do they immediately go to the old standby answer that a mutual friend introduced them? It mystifies me as to why more people than ever before are meeting through the Internet yet still have difficulty admitting to it.

Remember when we met people at school, churches or through friends and friends of friends? Well, now it’s much more efficient and effective to do our personal networking through the vast array of online dating sites and social networks. Those of us a bit older than our 20’s and 30’s are caught in between the old school methods of meeting and the world of online dating. We come up with excuses that younger people don’t need to as they are used to the Internet and its ability to connect people. I frequently tell those who ask that my current girlfriend and I met when she tracked me down in her line of work as a bounty hunter when I skipped out on my bond. Another answer that gets them scratching their heads is that we met at a rally to add capital punishment for parking violations. Most of us would just rather not admit that we are on an Internet dating site to meet people. It’s almost more comfortable to merely say we met at a bar.

For those who are more comfortable saying they met online, you can go into more specific detail as to the exact dating site you met on and also state if it has a particular theme. Of course this may backfire heavily if you met on a site catering to those who enjoy kinky online dating themes. I’m just saying that it would sound strange if your saintly mother asks where the two of you met and you smile and say “” I guess a lot of your answers may depend whether your mom watches Dr. Phil or Jerry Springer.

Sometimes it pays just to say you met at a bar or restaurant or wherever you had your first real life encounter. This way you will not be lying, as no one really needs to know that there was a few weeks of online messaging before you have your first in person date. Each situation is going to be a bit different depending upon who is asking, but the closer you stay to the truth, the less likely you’ll forget what you told them, and the clearer you conscious might be.

For whatever the reason there still may be a small stigma attached to meeting someone online, which is kinda silly because who really gives a crap as long as you found the person that makes you happy. Sometimes saying something as outlandish as “she was my penpal in prison” or as simple “He’s my cousin’s best friend”count for about as much as expecting an honest answer to the age old question “who peed in the pool!”

Surprisingly Common Dating & Relationship Mistakes To Avoid

Published on 16 Sep 2014 with 0 Comments

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Surprising Reasons Leading to Most Relationship Mistakes

We have all been in that relationship in which we wished that we could have seen something coming sooner or have thought if we only could change that one thing everything could have been different. Relationship regrets are something that anyone who has been in a relationship has felt at one time or another and most often come after that particular relationship is over or beyond repair. We are going to take a closer look at several of these common relationship mistakes that seem to be the most frequent dating regrets shared by both men and women.

Not Trusting your Gut

This is by far the most common relationship mistake as almost each and every person who has been in a failed relationship has experienced a specific point where their instincts told them something was wrong and they failed to listen to it. Some may have felt that if they ignored this feeling it would go away while others were blinded by unwavering

devotion to the other person.  Not trusting your gut instincts commonly leads to an inability to express your feelings and talk about potential problems finally resulting in relationship failure.

Not Talking About Problems

Failure to discuss problems is a very common relationship mistake that not only speeds up the collapse of the relationship but affects your self-esteem as well. We always hear how communication is the key to a healthy relationship but it seems many of us have no idea how to communicate. Waiting too long to make your feelings known can result in disaster. Emails and texting are no substitute for sitting down with someone and discussing those things that concern you.

Not Learning From Your Past

Relationship mistakes are just that, mistakes and as such you should learn from them. Just like sticking your hand in a flame and getting burned, you should learn not to place your hand there again. So why is it that so many of us continue to either date the same kind of people or conduct themselves in the same manner that caused the previous relationships to fail? Relationship mistakes are often patterns that seem to be more like the movie “Ground Hog Day” where Bill Murray relives the same day over and over. If you can understand the pattern you have a better chance of breaking it.

Relationships can be difficult and recognizing the red flags will greatly diminish the amount of pain you may need to incur. Take your time and be honest with yourself and the other person about what you are looking for and what you are offering. Don’t be afraid to make your feelings known, as most of us are not mind readers.  Fear can be either a great motivator or something that can stop you in your tracks, use it to your advantage. Take things slow and make decisions based on healthy desired outcomes and you should be able to navigate your way through the most common relationship mistakes.



Dating By Email – Messages That Get Responses

Published on 28 Aug 2013 with 0 Comments

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Many men using online dating sites have had a problem figuring out how to get a woman’s attention and how to get more women messaging them back. It’s really not that difficult once you understand how to create a dating profile that makes a difference, or to be more precise, how to get a woman’s attention and keep it. Decades ago in the back of magazines there were ads on how to pick up women, well guess what, they are back, but this time they teach you how create messages to make you successful in online dating.

Before you even get to the response and messaging part of online dating you really need to have a profile that can grab and hold a woman’s attention. The first part of this usually is the introduction. If you insist upon using this opening line to state how wealthy you are or what type of car you drive then you fall into the same category as the majority of people who think they can get quality women to talk to them based solely on this fact. You need to separate yourself from the crowd and scream “Hey! I am different!” Of course this isn’t what you actually say but by being amusing and different you may get a woman to read on to your actual profile to see what you are all about.  A sample online introduction could be something more like “Responsible by day, irresponsible by night” rather than “Millionaire seeking Arm Candy”.

Now that you have an introduction it’s time to get to the nuts and bolts of your profile. First decide who you are, funny? Serious? A bit of both perhaps?  Sample dating profiles are a dime a dozen on the Internet but you need to know how to continue once the messaging starts. It only works if you write about who you really are and present it in a way that not only makes sense but draws additional questions. The key to writing a great online dating profile is to show your personality by how you write as well as what you write. Pretty much anyone can spout off a laundry list of attributes and key facts but presenting it in a way that makes you seem like a friend instead of just a guy writing a profile is a difference-maker.

The average guy may write “I like fine dining and the beach” whereas the above average guy says “ a picnic basket filled with cheeses and foods from around the world while listening to the waves crash against the shore” conjures up a picture that is much more appealing to the woman reading this profile. In between the jazz make certain you offer key facts about yourself such as occupation, children, etc, but not enough that it would compromise your security.

Okay, the responses to you profile are now beginning to trickle in…what now? Well, first of all if you wrote a good dating profile that gets noticed you should be getting more responses than you know how to answer, so pick a few that intrigue you to get started.  Messages that get read have some common elements, they tell something about you, they are amusing and they are brief, perhaps 2-3 sentences. There will be plenty of time to get to know one another in greater detail later, but for now opening a continuous flow of conversation is what you should be shooting for.

Writing the initial messages is not difficult but there are certain rules that should apply if you are to be successful and the first of these is learning how to spell.  Many women have complained that men who use common Internet abbreviations or or make a substantial amount of spelling and grammar mistakes are really conveying that if they don’t care enough to write properly they probably will not care enough in a relationship. Another turn-off to many women is when a man immediately compliments some physical attribute. “Wow! I think you are really hot! translates in woman-speak to the probability that you are not and are just hoping someone falls for it. Saying something more like “ I was browsing the profiles and your eyes just grabbed me!” is a much better way of breaking the ice.

Since you only get one chance to make a first impression, you better do it right! What you put in the subject line of the message can make all the difference between getting read or getting thrown out with the trash. Imagine eating a piece of plain toast,  writing “hello” or “hey” is kind of the same thing, its boring and does nothing for you. Be imaginative and make the recipient want to see what’s on the inside and then dazzle her with wit while letting her know that you may have things in common.

Getting your message read is only half of the equation, getting responses to your messages completes the mission. To be successful in online dating you must combine all the above mentioned tips and suggestions and make it feel as if you are not behind a keyboard and monitor but sitting across a table from an attractive woman, letting your true personality shine through. If you have no personality and the best line you can come up with is “Hey babe, wanna get lucky?” Then just sell your computer and buy a dog!

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