Surprising Reasons Leading to Most Relationship Mistakes

We have all been in that relationship in which we wished that we could have seen something coming sooner or have thought if we only could change that one thing everything could have been different. Relationship regrets are something that anyone who has been in a relationship has felt at one time or another and most often come after that particular relationship is over or beyond repair. We are going to take a closer look at several of these common relationship mistakes that seem to be the most frequent dating regrets shared by both men and women.

Not Trusting your Gut

This is by far the most common relationship mistake as almost each and every person who has been in a failed relationship has experienced a specific point where their instincts told them something was wrong and they failed to listen to it. Some may have felt that if they ignored this feeling it would go away while others were blinded by unwavering devotion to the other person.  Not trusting your gut instincts commonly leads to an inability to express your feelings and talk about potential problems finally resulting in relationship failure.

Many men using online dating sites have had a problem figuring out how to get a woman’s attention and how to get more women messaging them back. It’s really not that difficult once you understand how to create a dating profile that makes a difference, or to be more precise, how to get a woman’s attention and keep it. Decades ago in the back of magazines there were ads on how to pick up women, well guess what, they are back, but this time they teach you how create messages to make you successful in online dating.

I was recently asked by a friend of mine who had gone through a string of fairly unsuccessful relationships why she can’t meet a black man of substance and stability. She wondered if it could possibly have something to do with race, since she was African-American. I looked at her for a good 10-15 seconds and by then she knew she was in for a lecture. I began by asking her where she was meeting these men? Already knowing the answer I delivered to her in my best elderly Jewish man accent…AHA!!!!!

Not all interactions between people have to end up in a dating scenario, sometimes it’s enough to just go out and make some new friends. Learning how to succeed socially is a key component of understanding how and where to meet friends or just make some new acquaintances. For some people this is easier said than done as many people have trouble with unfamiliar situations and learning how to get socially adept is very difficult for them. If you are one of these individuals, never fear, this article will give you a great idea of how to start making friends and influencing people, well, at least getting friends.

Where to meet friends is always a question that comes up frequently, especially for those who may have just relocated due to a new job or family concerns. If you are trying to figure out where to meet friends in a new city then just think about what you may have done in the last town you lived in, chances are the same types of venues or gathering places are available wherever you are. If not, then think about broadening your areas of interests, learning new things, visit new places.  As you expand your social horizons it will be inevitable that interactions with others will take place. Just let the natural flows of any conversations guide you.

There really are few things worse in the dating world than meeting your date for a long anticipated wonderful evening out and the seeing that person dressed completely inappropriate for that evening.  Suppose you are a woman expecting the gentleman to show up for a planned dinner at an elegant restaurant and he shows up in Sneakers and a tee shirt. It’s not going to make you giddy with anticipation. I once picked up a young woman for just such an evening.  All seemed great when I met her but after the door opened and what looked like the Queen of the Damned appeared in full Goth mode, I realized that even when you tell a person where you will be going for that date, you may want to politely mention attire for the date. This is done in a subtle way of course.

Another lonely night at home, watching your goldfish laugh at you when he knows he may get some later from that fancy tail hanging out on the other side of the water filter? Well, whose fault is that? Just give it a little bit of thought and dig up a bit of courage and you too can be out on the town saying, “lord please step in and find me a date tonight.”

One of the first things you need to decide upon when trying to find a date is what you actually want to get out that date. Are you just looking for some pleasant company for the evening and perhaps getting to know someone a bit better or are you looking for a hot passionate night with little or no regard for the future. The answer to this question and the ultimate goal of successful dating will determine what approach you may use to find a date tonight.

You have planned everything down to the goodbye kiss. You have scripted everything about how the first date should go, when you will pick her up if you are a man, and what you will be wearing if you are a woman. You are now prepared for any eventuality. The date is going well but then something inside you blurts out a question that could have you both scrambling for cover. It seems that everyone who goes on a first date wants to know answers to many of the same questions, and quite often these questions are asked. The method of delivery however is another story as how you ascertain the answers can make the difference between a pleasant evening and a fork in the eye!

Its important to keep conversation and questions on a first date light and easy, there is nothing worse than someone giving you the third degree about everything under the sun. You are trying to get to know someone so don’t make him or her feel like they are filling out a mortgage application. Phrase your questions that will lead to the answers you seek, but without directly challenging the other person to give a quick and definitive response. So, lets look at some of the ways we can ask first date questions without making it seem like an interview.

Dating is not a spectator sport so it is correct to presume that an individual will get out of his or her experiences what they put into it. Those middle class individuals may not have the same goals or abilities as rich men dating another well to do individual, who also has above average means, and therefore may be looking for someone who currently shares a comparable lifestyle. The interesting combination occurs with the rich dating a person of significantly lesser means, who is then exposed to standard of living much greater then they have been accustomed to. Once a woman experiences this change in lifestyle it is extremely difficult to go back to a middle class existence.

Ask typical single girls what they look for most often in a potential date and they will likely answer with one of the following things, “he has to be handsome and he should have a nice smile.” Other women will respond with something to the affect of “he should like animals and children”, while still others will resound “he should have money”. ‘Money’, what does money have to do with how attracted a woman may be to a man? Well in this day in age, a lot. Beautiful, single girls are attracted to wealthy men not only for the material things he may be able to offer, but also because wealthy men tend to be more confident and generally more outgoing. Wealthy men can give a single girl the option of staying in and watching a movie at home or traveling to a tropical getaway for the weekend. Unless she is specifically looking for wealthy men in her search, this is not something single girls are accustomed to stumbling across in the mainstream dating scene.

Should I stay or should I go, has come to mean more than just a popular song by a group called “The Clash.” Divorce rates are climbing into the stratosphere while more and more men and women are weighing their options when it comes to getting out of ill-fated marriages. Those who decide to file for divorce are quickly finding out that there really isn’t such a thing as a cheap divorce as the emotional and financial consequences of ending a marriage may be significant. But then again, its difficult to understand what are the real the costs of staying in a bad marriage?