Find a Partner

Today we pose a question for those singles out there that are currently dating or are thinking of starting to date: What is your main goal in this endeavor?

Are you looking to meet single women and date solely for the purpose of having a female companion to accompany you out on the town once in a while? Perhaps you are of a more serious mindset and are dating women with the thoughts of the relationship culminating in marriage. If this is the case, your dating agenda may be a bit different than the guy that sits in the cubicle next to you at work, each morning reliving his previous nights' conquests.

When dating with the specific goal to find a partner, we offer a few points to consider. Establish your search criteria. By the time we are in our 30's and 40's, our lives have usually provided us with enough life experiences to guide us and draw us toward those we know we mesh with. Presumably, you have dated a few single women through the years and know what does/doesn't work for you. Throughout one’s lifetime you've met plenty of people of varying personalities and demeanours; some you like and some you don't.

If you're marriage minded, one should have a good handle on the type of partner you want to spend your remaining days with. Don't necessarily make your ultimate intentions of marriage known right out of the starting gate. While you want to present yourself in the most realistic light possible, there are some things that aren't meant to be discussed on a first, or even fifth date; the fact that you are eager to get married would be one of them.

Feel free to talk about or demonstrate your loyalty when in a relationship, but telling the single women you just met that you are looking to marry could possibly scare her off. Keep in mind that the quest to find a partner takes time and effort; this is not like casually picking out a new shirt at the local department store. Get to know your date and what her goals and dreams are; if they do not match up with yours, don't be afraid to move on.

You can rarely convince someone that wishes to remain unmarried that marriage is the ideal option for them, so don't try. It will either push them further away, or they will acquiesce and given in to your reasoning. No matter how you may feel about this woman, you would not want someone to marry you because it was the path of least resistance. You want someone that genuinely shares your dreams for the future and someone that will be there to rock next to you on the proverbial porch during your Golden Years.