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What Men Want In A Woman And Why

Published on 20 Nov 2012 with 0 Comments

 

Sometimes it’s very difficult to understand just what a man sees in a woman. I mean I have seen some extremely handsome men dating, or married to some very strange choice of women. I mean come on! Whoever said beauty is in the eyes of the beholder has obviously never seen an ugly person naked. But since the world has become a haven for binge eaters and disciples of chemically altered individuals we really should look at more than surface appearance when deciding what we really are looking for when searching for that girl of our dreams to avoid waking up with an ongoing nightmare.

When guys gather around to talk about sports, vacations and women, very rarely does the conversation discuss the things that actually attracted them to their girlfriend. Obviously guys talk about looks (and by looks we mean breasts and tushy), but when most of the conversation is stripped away and you are left to really understand what attracted a guy to a girl, we find quite a few similarities in what guys actually find important in a girlfriend once we get past the initial attractiveness.

Femininity is an important factor, however it is often misconstrued as you are just as likely to find a feminine woman running a mud race as you will taking part in a cooking class, there are exceptions such as women’s softball and field hockey. The point is now how she looks but how she carries herself. Guys do not really enjoy spending time with a woman who can make a truck driver blush. The do however love a woman who can take part and compete with them at their favorite pastimes. Having a best friend rolled up in the woman you want to sleep with is every guy’s fantasy!

If you are lucky enough to find a woman such as mentioned above you will discover that she is quite often quick witted with a bit of a cute edge to her. She can take your amusing or gentle digs at her and shoot a few right back at you. This displays her sense of humor and intelligence to some extent as the majority of guys want their girlfriend to be a bit independent and on a more equal footing with them. A funny, intelligent and independent woman is also usually very comfortable with her sexuality, which could mean for some interesting times behind the bedroom door.

Finding a woman that is physically attractive is always a good thing but beauty really is in the eyes of the beholder. If two women are standing side by side and one is slightly more attractive than the other, most men would go after the one they deem most attractive. However, let’s take the time to get to know them. One loves the same things as you, is supportive and full of those qualities that make you feel good, but the other although marginally more attractive, has the personality of an eggplant and would never be caught dead with you and your friends at a favorite sporting event. Who would you rather have a relationship with?

Most men find that they are very lucky when they can find a woman who is not only physically attractive but can be a best friend as well.  By of all the things we have previously stated, we find that this comfort level with one another can not only make for a long an d happy relationship but for some wonderfully exciting moments in the bedroom as well!

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Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

Do Nice Guys Finish Last? Myth Or Fact.

Published on 14 Nov 2012 with 0 Comments

 

I love hearing the phrase “nice guys finish last”, because it’s almost always spoken by the guy that finished last. Nice guys don’t finish last, guys that don’t have the will and determination to give it their all usually are the ones that are at the end of the line. Lets be honest about this, those that can’t hack it need to justify their poor performance, because no one is willing to say that someone merely tried harder than they did or they didn’t care enough to figure out a way to do better at some task. Call yourself a nice guy or call yourself a loser, but in reference to this article, there are pretty much the same.

Now, obviously we are not talking about acts of superior physical challenges, as that would be unfair, since not all objectives or goals are specific for athletic individuals and not all athletes could compete against mentally superior individuals. But we all have the ability to put forth intense effort and resolve, and those who don’t are not necessary ‘nice guys’ or ‘bad guys’, merely guys who didn’t try as hard. Lets assume for this argument that the guys are all pretty similar in terms of overall attractiveness, we can then look at attitude as the irresistible force that will allow one man to succeed in pursuit of a female while another may crash and burn.

One more thing that needs to be taken into consideration is what type of relationship that the female is looking for; as different male attitudes are more desirable, depending on what type of relationship is sought. Women who are not looking for more than a casual fling and may not want anything more than to date several men at a time are usually drawn to the classic bad boy attitude. This brooding mysterious type, whom although may be very attractive, there is usually not much known about him. For the woman who is seeking a long-term relationship and someone to count on, and perhaps looking to start a family, the responsible or ‘nice guy’ is the preferred choice. It’s really not about who is the nice guy or bad boy, but who has the desired mind-set at a specific point in time for a particular female.

Because you are never quite sure at the onset of getting to know someone what their current desires are, its best to be able to transition from bad boy to nice guy and visa versa on the fly. This is imperative if you are not sure what you are actually looking for as well. If you are looking for a specific type of relationship than there is no need to play both ends of the attitude spectrum, just be who you are and wait for the girl who is looking for the same. Be aware that just like a school of fish, nice guys tend to hang out with nice guys and bad boys with bad boys. This is how we have come up with chess clubs and motorcycle gangs. Sometimes it pays to be the lone wolf and roll with it to avoid being thought of in one way or the other. This approach gives you lots of latitude and options.

As for the old adage nice guys finish last; again it all depends on your point of view. If having someone that knows you and loves you despite all your imperfections, and having children who adore you and count on you is considered finishing last; well, then I’d pick being a nice guy each and every time!

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

How to start dating again for beginners

Published on 30 Oct 2012 with 0 Comments

Returning to the dating scene after a divorce or separation?…..

 

After being married for many years is not an easy thing for a woman to do but what’s even harder than that is dating such a woman. Dating newly single women requires a man to have patience as well as the ability to be understanding.

Many newly single women have been out of the dating scene for quite a bit of time which means they may be somewhat nervous about dating.  It is important to make her feel relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. You might try using a little humor on her as laughter is always an effective way to make a person feel relaxed and at ease.

It is important to move slowly with her in the relationship by not putting pressure on her about getting more intimate. It is quite possible that a newly single woman has been with the same man for a very long period of time which may make her either apprehensive or eager to get more intimate with you. Let her move at a pace that she is most comfortable with which will require understanding and patience on your part.

When dating a newly single woman it is quite possible that she will have children that live with her which means she has a responsibility to her kids. You might find it necessary to work around her schedule so that she will have time for you as well as her children. If you really want to score points with her, you might try planning a weekend with her and her children so that you may all get to know each other in an enjoyable atmosphere such as an amusement park for example.

One very important point to keep in mind is that you don’t want to be “the next guy” who happens to come along at a time when a newly single woman is looking to fill a void. A man should be cautious that he may be entering a woman’s life at a time when she desperately needs help emotionally so be prepared that you may be in the wrong place at the wrong time. It’s never easy learning how to start dating again.

The last thing I’d like to say about dating newly single women is to have a good time and to just be yourself. Honesty and communication are probably two of the most important things in a relationship if you plan on having long term success. Be truthful and understanding but remember to also proceed with caution and I’m sure your dating experience will be one to remember.

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

Great places to meet women besides bars and clubs

Published on 25 Oct 2012 with 0 Comments

How to pick up women on your commute to work:

 

I was in a dry spell when it comes to meeting women, all my usual hot spots had not been paying off and I was giving some serious thought as to where to meet women besides bars and clubs.  Then it hit me like a ton of bricks while on my way to work. Commuting to work on the subway sucks. I wish there were a better way to phrase this but when you just come right down to it, commuting really does suck. Endless lines of people silently staring into space and trying not to be noticed as they continue through their daily existence. Well, I thought it was time to shake it up a bit. It was bad enough that I had to go through this just to get to a job I really wasn’t all that fond of, but I’m a people person and here I had the ultimate captive audience!

I’m not the most suave guy in the world, or probably the room either, but I do have a habit of talking to pretty much anyone I meet. I mean its fun to get into conversations with people for no apparent reason and you never know whom you might meet, and you may even make a new friend. I was scanning the subway car I was riding in just to see what the regulars were up to when I saw a young woman in her late 20’s struggling with a package, while trying to hang onto the pole that kept her from falling over. It kind of bothered me that a young guy that was seated right in front of her and made no attempt to be chivalrous and give up his seat. I decided that this was as good a time as any to make my move.

The subway can be somewhat of a challenge for picking up women. It may take some special skills to accomplish this, as there are both  positives and negatives for this type of action. Remember, your on a moving train, people are being jostled around and noise could be a factor if you actually make it to the point where you have a conversation. Your advantage comes in the fact that she really has nowhere to go once you make your move. You are in an enclosed subway car careening down the tracks, so you basically have her cornered till at least the next stop, longer if she is late for work.

Now for the important stuff, depending upon your approach you will be thought of either as a normal guy also on his way somewhere, just engaging in some pleasant conversation to pass the time, or you will be though of as a stalker. If you are perceived as the stalker remember she has nowhere to run and a cornered animal can be very dangerous. Assess the situation quickly and make a hasty retreat if its obvious your are mere seconds away from a swift kick to the groin.

I sauntered up to the hanging strap just to the left of this woman and looked off in the opposite direction for a short while, waiting for my opportunity. It came just a minute or so later when a sharp curve in the tracks caused everyone in the train lose balance. Did I mention from riding this train everyday I new that this was inevitable and positioned myself perfectly to stop her fall and play the hero.

Once a woman falls into your arms, its very hard for her to not talk to you once you start the conversation. The initial opening line here is very important, too harsh and you’re  a weirdo, too soft and it goes unnoticed or perhaps she just smiles.  “If had a dollar for every time a woman throws herself into my arms on this train I’d have well…. A dollar” was my opening remark; it may not sound like much but it was all that was needed, she smiled back and thanked me and the conversation began.

I always say the key to meeting people during the commute to, or from work, is properly reading peoples reactions, not only to your approach but to the entire environment as well. Someone who has had a really bad day at work may react very differently than someone who may have just gotten a raise or promotion. With practice you can readily spot  who is approachable and who should be given a wide birth. Make sure to have a pen or your smart phone handy as you need to be able to jot down a number quickly as you never know which station she exits. It would be a shame to get through all this only to lose her when the doors open.

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

Top Excuses To Get Out Of A date

Published on 01 Oct 2012 with 2 Comments

 
A few uncomfortable thoughts: a stubbed toe, a root canal, and being stuck with a date you don’t like. While they all involve just temporary pain, spending a few hours with someone you feel you don’t mesh with can seem excruciating at times. So what do you do when you feel like you’d rather be gnawed on by a herd of rabid squirrels, rather than sit through 2 more minutes listening to why Star Wars is better than Battlestar Gallactica?

While there are many approaches, here are a just a few of the tried and true tactics to get you home early:

Take the honest route. When you find your mind wondering during dinner, and wishing a friend would call your cell with “an emergency”, go ahead and lay it on the line. There are certainly ways to be polite and tactful, while asking to excuse yourself from the rest of the evening. “I’m just not feeling as if we’re a good match” is an effective opener.

Feign illness. Maybe it was the fish that made you ill at dinner… hang your hat on that excuse and then hope your date doesn’t recall that you had the chicken. I do suggest that if you decide to play The Sick Card, you go all in though. Don’t be too passive in stating you ‘feel a bit queasy’; instead, go right ahead and tell him / her “wow, I don’t know WHAT they put in that gazpacho, but whatever it was; it’s going through me like a locomotive!!” There are very few people that will attempt to detain you after that declaration.

Having a friend call you with a “so-called” emergency actually has been over played in Television and the Movies but can still work if you have children. Just be smart as to how and when during the date you play this card. Set up a code in advance, just in case your date wants to question you about the situation and asks if they could help. A text with a key word telling your friend to call back in 5, 10 or 20 minutes is helpful

If the above mentioned tips fails to get you to the exit, and an accelerated end to the date, there is always the “excuse me, I have to use the restroom” line. This works best if the restrooms are out of view of your date and have a close proximity to an exit. This is to only be used if your date actually instills a sense of fear in you and your options are limited and your safety could be compromised. Try to avoid this tip if at all possible as it is not only a method of last resort, but you are also not quite sure of the mental state of your date and whether he or she may be the type to retaliate.

These few tips to end a date early are by no means the only ones, but having a friend in the local SWAT team come in and arrest you would definitely work and probably eliminate any future requests to go out, however it may be a bit on the extreme side. The best method for ending a date early is not to go out with them. It’s difficult to ascertain whether a person is a good fit for you with out the first or second date but you can weed out a great many of the undesirables. Just use your best judgment and natural instinct and you should be fine, if that doesn’t work, pull the fire alarm and run like hell!

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him