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Returning to the dating scene after a divorce or separation?…..

 

After being married for many years is not an easy thing for a woman to do but what’s even harder than that is dating such a woman. Dating newly single women requires a man to have patience as well as the ability to be understanding.

Many newly single women have been out of the dating scene for quite a bit of time which means they may be somewhat nervous about dating.  It is important to make her feel relaxed and comfortable when she is with you. You might try using a little humor on her as laughter is always an effective way to make a person feel relaxed and at ease.

It is important to move slowly with her in the relationship by not putting pressure on her about getting more intimate. It is quite possible that a newly single woman has been with the same man for a very long period of time which may make her either apprehensive or eager to get more intimate with you. Let her move at a pace that she is most comfortable with which will require understanding and patience on your part.

When dating a newly single woman it is quite possible that she will have children that live with her which means she has a responsibility to her kids. You might find it necessary to work around her schedule so that she will have time for you as well as her children. If you really want to score points with her, you might try planning a weekend with her and her children so that you may all get to know each other in an enjoyable atmosphere such as an amusement park for example.

One very important point to keep in mind is that you don’t want to be “the next guy” who happens to come along at a time when a newly single woman is looking to fill a void. A man should be cautious that he may be entering a woman’s life at a time when she desperately needs help emotionally so be prepared that you may be in the wrong place at the wrong time. It’s never easy learning how to start dating again.

The last thing I’d like to say about dating newly single women is to have a good time and to just be yourself. Honesty and communication are probably two of the most important things in a relationship if you plan on having long term success. Be truthful and understanding but remember to also proceed with caution and I’m sure your dating experience will be one to remember.

How to pick up women on your commute to work:

 

I was in a dry spell when it comes to meeting women, all my usual hot spots had not been paying off and I was giving some serious thought as to where to meet women besides bars and clubs.  Then it hit me like a ton of bricks while on my way to work. Commuting to work on the subway sucks. I wish there were a better way to phrase this but when you just come right down to it, commuting really does suck. Endless lines of people silently staring into space and trying not to be noticed as they continue through their daily existence. Well, I thought it was time to shake it up a bit. It was bad enough that I had to go through this just to get to a job I really wasn’t all that fond of, but I’m a people person and here I had the ultimate captive audience!

I’m not the most suave guy in the world, or probably the room either, but I do have a habit of talking to pretty much anyone I meet. I mean its fun to get into conversations with people for no apparent reason and you never know whom you might meet, and you may even make a new friend. I was scanning the subway car I was riding in just to see what the regulars were up to when I saw a young woman in her late 20’s struggling with a package, while trying to hang onto the pole that kept her from falling over. It kind of bothered me that a young guy that was seated right in front of her and made no attempt to be chivalrous and give up his seat. I decided that this was as good a time as any to make my move.

The subway can be somewhat of a challenge for picking up women. It may take some special skills to accomplish this, as there are both  positives and negatives for this type of action. Remember, your on a moving train, people are being jostled around and noise could be a factor if you actually make it to the point where you have a conversation. Your advantage comes in the fact that she really has nowhere to go once you make your move. You are in an enclosed subway car careening down the tracks, so you basically have her cornered till at least the next stop, longer if she is late for work.

Now for the important stuff, depending upon your approach you will be thought of either as a normal guy also on his way somewhere, just engaging in some pleasant conversation to pass the time, or you will be though of as a stalker. If you are perceived as the stalker remember she has nowhere to run and a cornered animal can be very dangerous. Assess the situation quickly and make a hasty retreat if its obvious your are mere seconds away from a swift kick to the groin.

I sauntered up to the hanging strap just to the left of this woman and looked off in the opposite direction for a short while, waiting for my opportunity. It came just a minute or so later when a sharp curve in the tracks caused everyone in the train lose balance. Did I mention from riding this train everyday I new that this was inevitable and positioned myself perfectly to stop her fall and play the hero.

Once a woman falls into your arms, its very hard for her to not talk to you once you start the conversation. The initial opening line here is very important, too harsh and you’re  a weirdo, too soft and it goes unnoticed or perhaps she just smiles.  “If had a dollar for every time a woman throws herself into my arms on this train I’d have well…. A dollar” was my opening remark; it may not sound like much but it was all that was needed, she smiled back and thanked me and the conversation began.

I always say the key to meeting people during the commute to, or from work, is properly reading peoples reactions, not only to your approach but to the entire environment as well. Someone who has had a really bad day at work may react very differently than someone who may have just gotten a raise or promotion. With practice you can readily spot  who is approachable and who should be given a wide birth. Make sure to have a pen or your smart phone handy as you need to be able to jot down a number quickly as you never know which station she exits. It would be a shame to get through all this only to lose her when the doors open.

This is a question that has been asked throughout the ages, are women more attracted to men with rippling, toned physiques, or those with brains? To answer this question we need to look deeper and begin a modest investigation of the differences between both types of men, but from the female perspective.

It seems that although most women appear to like a man with muscles, it’s the total package that most females desire. The totally ripped gym rat looks great, but if he has the intellect of an eggplant the window dressing is wasted. A man does not have to be perfect, but simply to be well groomed, reasonably fit and have an air of confidence about him, as this will elevate this person well above the man who merely has a muscular body going for him.

To most women, your occupation does not give you license not to put in any effort into your physical and mental well-being. A plumber can get to the gym and dress neatly just as easily as a stockbroker. It’s more of a mental state that separates those that can from those that can’t. This is why the perfect combination of Brainiac and Muscleman is in such high demand.

When we talk about brainacs, we are not necessarily speaking of someone with a genius IQ, what we are saying is someone who has the intelligence along with the discipline and desire to achieve and succeed. Many women can’t accurately put their finger on those things that create sexual attraction, but it is almost universally accepted that it is a combination of several things that generates interest. Women can sense passion, not only in regards to the chemistry between two people, but in the way a person approaches life as well.

There are of course those women who do not care in the slightest about a man’s character, intellect or the way in which he presents himself, for them its only about one thing, ‘is he hot or not!’ Some women, much like some men, look at a member of the opposite sex merely as a conquest, and the thought of any long-term relationship never enters the thought process. For these women it’s all about short-term and instant gratification.

But the question still needs to be addressed, do women prefer men with great bodies or men with great minds, and because the human race is imperfect and subject to a variety of opinions, this question can never be truly answered one way or the other. What can be stated is that each person has a particular set of experiences as they grow up.

These experiences shape who that person is today and what makes them happy and what does not. Finding someone who shares many of your experiences or at least the way in which you view the world can change the way in which you perceive that person. In high school it was the geeks versus the jocks, but as we got older the lines became a bit less clear as each of us has that sense of the perfect combination that they connect with, that one person who’s body drives you crazy and who’s mind takes you to a whole other level.