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Power of women over men, but do they know it?

Published on 29 Jan 2013 with 0 Comments

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I was walking around Whole Foods the other day looking for my favorite overpriced epicurean delights when I noticed a very attractive woman standing by the produce section. At the time I didn’t think much of it, but when a gentleman approached to the side of her and began to talk about vegetables, it hit me like a ton of bricks. He had just been caught; hook, line and sinker, this woman just needed to decide whether he was a keeper or to throw him back. I had just been privy to one of womankind’s long held secrets, the art of personal advertising!

For some reason, evolution has played a cruel trick on men, it has compelled men to be the ones who overtly seek out the female of the species,  all the while it is the female who calls all the shots when it comes to choosing a mate. Just look at this woman in the produce aisle of Whole Foods, she is just waiting for her “actions” to draw in an unsuspecting victim. Wait, let me correct that, he is not unsuspecting, but there must be some chemical blocking agent in his brain that either makes him oblivious to the manipulation or perhaps causes him to not care.  In any event he is drawn in like a moth to a flame. The attractive woman knows at this point she has all the power and the only thing she needs do is decide whether to entice and torment him any longer, or to set him free and search for a better prospect.

Quite often setting him free from her snare of womanly wiles is the most humane act she displays, as once she decides on a suitable male, she will invariably bend him to her will. She holds the power at this point but once the choice is made to keep him, the scales begin to balance out just a bit. Everything taking place after the initial contact begins to balance out and the man starts to regain some manner of control and maybe a bit of dignity if he’s lucky. This occurs as the woman begins to desire the man, and what he may offer in the manner of physical intimacy, protection and possible stability. The longer she keeps him wanting her at this stage while teasing him, the more desires she has that are going unfulfilled.

An attractive woman has power and she knows it, but average women have the same kind of clout though many more men tend to avoid falling into their ambush. The more attractive a man is, the more likely it is that he can shield himself from her manipulations. The reason is that an attractive man may have the same affect on a woman as the attractive woman has on men. Average women and average men are in the majority so there will be many more opportunities for them initiate interactions. Knowing that the next possibility may be just around the corner gives an individual the strength to walk away from a potential relationship very early on, and avoid too much psychological harm. Women seem to realize this much quicker than men and therefore maintain control longer.

So in conclusion, some feel women control the initial interactions, giving up some of that power as the relationship grows. The scales begin to balance out as both parties begin to realize they desire something from the other. But no matter which way you look at it, in the end its not about control or power, its about relationships and how one person ultimately makes the other feel.

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Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

Top Reasons Not To Take Dating Advice From Your Friends.

Published on 23 Jan 2013 with 0 Comments

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Friends are wonderful, they are usually there when you need them, and they can help you with chores such as landscaping, cleaning out the garage or being a sounding board for career decisions when you are considering a new job. Occasionally they will even loan you money, well, that is if they are exceptionally well-off or just stupid, but the one thing you should never do is take advice from a good friend about affairs of the heart! Don’t do it!

Taking dating advice from a friend is tantamount to going shopping for a puppy with any member of the cast of “Survivor”! You may think it’s a fun idea at first but you know as soon as your back is turned that little mut will probable bite you in the ass! You may as well call Charlie Sheen and ask for his relationship opinions while you’re at it. Friends quite often, but not always, have hidden agendas when it comes to dating and relationships, especially when it’s someone else’s relationship. Here are some types of red flags to be on the alert for:

The friend who tells you to “dump him” or her is the one that really gets under my skin, as not only is this person quick to give their advice, but usually does not take the time to ask the pertinent questions about the situation.  Have you ever noticed that this person always seems to be what you felt, was uncomfortably close to your other half, and perhaps always more than willing to be the third wheel when you go out? Do not be surprised that if you break up your ex gives you a ring telling you that “your friend” still calls them or has even asked him or her out!

We now move onto that friend that listens to the entire situation and tells you that everything is going to be fine and you should be happy no matter what, because you are so special and deserve the best. This is also the same person who believes in puppy heaven and the tooth fairy. Dating and relationships are not easy! They require work and people who are too quick to move away from difficult times merely do not care enough to fight for them, or truly understand the situation. This type of friend may not care as much as they claim, they are simply telling you want they think you want to hear in order to stay in your good graces, while also staying within grasp of free entertainment and an occasional free meal.

The next friend is a bit harder to understand. They are the one that wants no part of the current state of affairs; he or she says they do not want to tell you what to do for the simple reason that if you get back together, anything he or she says will be held against them. OK, so they have a point there, if I tell my friend that his girlfriend is a manipulative tramp or has the intellect of an eggplant, I am treading on thin ice. If they get back together, your observations or comments, (even if they were meant only to bolster a friends spirits) will come back to haunt you. This type of friend has a point, you can’t actually blame them, as you are the one putting them in a difficult situation, but as a friend they should take the risk and stand by your side.

Finally we get to what I like to call the “Better with Beer Goggles Friend” this is the friend who follows you like a Remora fish follows a Shark hoping to pick up the table scraps. Its not that they are the second coming of “Medusa” as people do not turn to stone when they go out in public, its just that they would not be your first choice (second or third for that matter) to flirt with in a well lit environment. This type of friend also has ulterior motives due to the fact that your being single gives them a much better chance of finding someone themselves, even if for just that evening!

In conclusion, I am not saying that all friends offering advice have hidden agendas, but you need to take any advice offered with a grain of salt. Remember you are the one that is having the crisis, not them. It all comes down to what you feel is best for you. There are those friends that would jump in front of bus for you, and there are those that secretly would like to be driving that bus. Ultimately, you make the decisions, some of them will be right while others will be painfully wrong. Only time will tell you if the choice was right, but life is what happens while you’re making other plans!

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

Successful men can find sex anywhere but to find a woman who stands by him is rare.

Published on 14 Jan 2013 with 0 Comments

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The term Sugadaddie has been used to describe a relationship that implies a slightly older gentlemen willing to enter into an ongoing relationship with younger attractive ladies in which the man may assist the woman financially.. Of course we all know that there is more often than not a physical element to this plot, but the emotional component has come to mean much more, yet it is quite often overlooked. Wealthy and powerful men can quite easily find a younger, attractive woman to be there so-called “arm candy”, the tenure of most of these girls is usually quite short and there is always a newer and more intriguing product always coming along. So what is it that makes one woman a Sugarbabe and another a true relationship? The answer is all in what she gives back.

Attractive women are a dime a dozen to the affluent male, but one who understands his needs outside of the bedroom and assists in lessening his burden is worth her weight in gold. Most of the very attractive women who are searching for a Sugardaddie are just asking the question “what can he do me?” There is little support for what this gentleman goes through or how she can assist in a variety of ways especially by being supportive. For a real relationship to develop both parties must understand and believe the other person is supportive of their decisions and goals. Successful men can find sex anywhere but to find a woman who stands by him is rare. We as men understand that you can pretend to be supportive, and that manipulation is merely part of the game most Sugarbabes play in order to get what they want. But we are not always that stupid and do not only think with something other than our brains. Whether it is our career or hobbies or anything else, support of, and motivation to continue those pursuits and possibly even sharing in them, quite frequently turns the short term into the long.

Most successful men are juggling many things at one time, whereas the Sugarbabe may consider scheduling lunch appointments and pedicures to be most overwhelming.  The Sugarbabe can lose sight of the fact that what the wealthy man juggles can have major effects on the future, and a continued affluent lifestyle. It is for these reasons that she not only be supportive in his endeavors, but takes on some of the burden. This can take the form of merely assisting in organizing his down time, which in turn can be used to strengthen their relationship. Countless women fail to remember that building relationships requires both parties to pitch in, and if not providing the wealth she must become part of the foundation that the relationship is built upon.

Being supportive does come with its own perils. First you must determine if the support you offer is genuine or you are just going along with him to avoid rocking the boat. False votes of confidence usually lead to arguments and ultimately to separation. You also must be strong enough to speak your mind honestly, offer support to someone when you sincerely feel the project or endeavor is wrong or unwise is not doing anyone justice. You are there to provide not only support but an honest opinion as well. Again, rich and powerful men really don’t have much trouble finding suitable sexual liaisons, but finding someone who they can trust and open up to while enhancing stability can make a Sugarbaby into a wife

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

How Do Men Feel About Dating Overweight Women?

Published on 10 Dec 2012 with 1 Comment

Not everyone is supermodel thin, and the truth is that when the layers of fine clothing and lingerie are peeled away and the make-up is removed, many men are turned off by what is left. Don’t get me wrong, these women are still attractive and enjoy flawless features, but most men seem to prefer dating a woman with a bit more substance. In other words, being a bit overweight is not necessarily a bad thing, but where does average end and obese begin? For the most part, men prefer non-overweight women, but a bit more substance does not mean wearing a belt size that reads “equator”. Just ask any male to tell you about the girl he dreams about and there is a good chance she will not be overweight. When most men are asked to rate a woman, those getting the highest scores are not those that are model thin, but those that fill out their clothes best or have an air of sexual suggestiveness to them.

How a man looks at a woman is very subjective. Most people, when they pass each other on the street or at a favorite nightspot do not first think, “Hey, I bet she has a really nice personality”. It’s much more probable that the first thing that comes to mind is “Holy crap! Look at that ass!” But let’s assume the woman is just about average or a few lbs over that perception. It may take longer to get into a meaningful conversation with that woman, but once and interaction starts, it becomes more about personality and compatibility. At this point men’s perception of a woman’s weight is more about personal taste in regards to the extent of excess body fat.

Peer Pressure actually plays more of a role in a man’s sensitivity of whether or not a woman is overweight than the bathroom scale, as many men do not want to be called a ‘chubby chaser’ by their friends. The overweight prejudice is a relatively recent trend as in centuries past an overweight woman was perceived as more suitable for child bearing. It is only since the media has grown so powerful that such an impact on public perception of weight, that ultra thin models have unfairly become the standard against what all women are measured. It is like saying a man is less of a man because he is short, unfortunately a person cannot get taller, but they can lose weight. Taller and thinner have become what we outwardly notice about others first.

Overweight women do not suffer from a lack of physical intimacy because of their weight; they are just as likely to have as much sex as their thinner counterparts, perhaps even more. Men seem to also truly enjoy the aspects of a relationship that don’t involve sex, such as spending time with someone who has common interests and is easy to talk to. Thin women can have these characteristics as well, but as studies show, thin is usually in the minority!

In all relationships, very rarely is everything perfect and there are always compromises that need to be made. But if you are the kind of person who is always looking for a bigger and better deal, then you may not feel comfortable with a slightly overweight woman. If you are physically not attracted to the woman then you should think twice about getting involved as it is not only going to keep you wondering if you could have done better, but it is certainly not fair to her as well. Remember, there are far more significant factors in life than weight.

 

About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him

What Do Women Really Want For Christmas

Published on 07 Dec 2012 with 2 Comments

The Holiday season is here and time is running out to find the perfect gift for your significant other. We’ve always wondered what gifts women want most for Christmas, so we decided to find out. We surveyed over one thousand women to help uncover what they really want for Christmas!

What Women Want For Christmas

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About noah_van_hochman

Noah Van Hochman’s distinctive style of bringing his thoughts and abilities for all to see is comparable to a summer storm, you can see it coming, but there is really nothing you can do about it! His vast knowledge on a multitude of subjects leaves him with a variety of opinions that can change in an instant, and often do. Mr. Van Hochman may at times have the demeanor of the Dalai Lama while at other periods he may appear to be more of a drunken sailor out on shore leave! Whatever manner he is presenting at the moment one thing is certain, his intellect and analytical skills are considerable, and wherever his travels take him you can be certain he will make wonderful new friends. Children and puppies love him