The impression that businessmen such as bankers, lawyers and other successful business professionals are devoid of romantic notions is not only false, it can also be downright insulting. Today’s business executive has many tools at his disposal for creating wealth; he can also use his knowledge of such tools and ideas to create romance as well. A man who can effectively run a large corporation or firm can translate his abilities to advance his social life or relationship too. The following ideas are presented with the purpose of showing such men how to accomplish this.
As a business executive you should have impeccable time management skills, so use this ability to give yourself a bit of added time to spend with that special someone. Telling a woman you are currently too busy to go to dinner or a movie, or anything else that requires a bit of time is basically the same as saying she is not important enough, or she takes a back seat to something else. Not a great way to build a fun and lasting relationship.
If an employee consistently does a great job in your organization you find some way of rewarding them for a job well done, well, the same should go for your romantic partner as well. Just because we call something a raise or a bonus doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to call it that outside of the office. A bonus for making you happy and keeping things under control in your relationship can be something as simple as a surprise day at the spa, or a long weekend trip that you both can enjoy. If you want to take it a step further, give the equivalent of a raise, perhaps an upgrade in vehicles may be in order. Whatever you decide to do to show your appreciation, it is merely the same as added compensation to a valued employee or partner. Obviously, you are not equating the special person in your life to an employee, but rewards make us all feel good and give us additional incentive to keep working towards a desired goal.
If you are a manufacturer of a product or have a high-end service related business, think about how you treat one of your most valued customers. You would never tell them that you have no time to talk to them on the phone or meet them for a drink to discuss business, so why would you tell your significant other that you do not have the time to meet? Again, this is just telegraphing the message that something else is more important than she. Find, or make the time, even its merely for 1 drink or a stolen kiss in the elevator, that little extra effort can pay huge dividends down the road.
So many Successful businessmen use the time excuse so often that it no longer holds much credibility. If you are willing to work overtime to close a deal why not work overtime for your relationship. Every year right around the holidays or my birthday, my mailbox is inundated with cards and letters from my insurance company, brokerage firm and the guys that detail my car. They are showing me that I am a valued customer and want to keep my business. I know all their customer’s get the same card, but it still shows me they care enough to send it. It costs a heck of a lot less to keep a customer than to find a new one and the same goes for that special someone in your life. Think about the time and effort of going back into the dating game as opposed to doing the little things that make your current relationship a happy one for both of you. It doesn’t take an MBA to realize that one method is a heck of a lot easier and more cost effective than the other!
Gone are the days of carving the initials of you and that special on a tree inside a heart, as the environmentalists will be tracking you down to throw you in jail. Painting your feelings on a bridge over a highway that your love passes through everyday will be called defacing public property and categorized as just another bit of graffiti that will cost the city money to clean. Gone also are the days in grade school when you could leave messages in chalk on the sidewalk to express your feelings while praying a sudden cloudburst doesn’t wash your words down the drain along with your heart. As beautiful as these expressions of love can be, they have been replaced by gizmos and gadgets as the age of technology has given those of all ages to profess their love..
The great thing about declaring your love for someone in the age of technology is that it need not be done publicly any longer. Where once your words and innermost feelings were subject to the eyes of the world, methods such as email and mobile phones have made those who want to scream their adoration from the top of a hill can now do it in the privacy of their home via the Internet and WiFi. Remember the movie “you’ve got mail” with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan? They carried on a friendship/affair for some time before even realizing whom they were conversing with. A quick text to that special someone’s cell phone with just the right phrase can go as far as send a bouquet of flowers, and be a whole lot cheaper. If you want to get a bit more involved and drag out the courtship a bit you can create a free yet discreet email address online and send a series of emails aimed at capturing the heart of a special someone. Its important to not that if you go a bit too far it can have a negative effect and seem like you are cyber stalking. For this reason, be intuitive enough to determine whether your actions are having the desired effect, and if not, cease this operation immediately and try something else.
If you have a laptop and are often seen seated at a local Starbucks or some other bistro type area where others congregate to do a bit of work, read or merely socialize and listen to a little music, you have an opportunity to send messages via email by utilizing the Wireless Internet that these type of establishments offer in order to draw in tech savvy customers. What’s fun about texting or emailing from your laptop is that you can be in the general vicinity of the other person when you send it and there is a good chance you can gauge their reaction to your message. Its great fun to see the expression on their face when they read what you have sent. If your are not in a WiFi enabled area but still want to get a bit creative you can always purchase a cheap set of walkie-talkies and have a waiter or friend drop it off on their table. It should be a lot of fun watching as your voice comes over the airwaves and requests they pick up the device. With a pair of binoculars and depending on the range of the walkie-talkies you can drive someone mad as they try to figure out who is talking to them and from where!
If you think about it, most people tend to move towards pleasure and away from pain. What does this have to do with dating you might ask? Well if you can get a woman to associate feeling pleasure with being with you, then you have a good chance of winning her over. One of the best ways to make any woman feel pleasure is to make her laugh by having a good sense of humor.
Having the ability to make a woman laugh is a sure way to get her to want to be with you. Laughing has a way of making us not only feel good, but it’s actually healthy and can help with lowering blood pressure, boost the immune system and reduce stress.
Many females when asked what they find most attractive about men ranked humor as one of the top 3 qualities a man should have along with confidence and attitude. It’s plain and simple, make a woman laugh and you’re sure to have her falling for you.
You might be wondering if humor is so effective for attracting and dating single women, why doesn’t every guy use it to their advantage? Well for one reason many men are not aware of how powerful a sense of humor can really be. For those men who are aware, some find it difficult to be funny. Developing the ability to get people to laugh is somewhat of an art because if not done correctly you can come off as sounding quite annoying and silly.
How does a person develop the ability to get people to laugh? Can it be taught or is it something that we are born with? Most likely it’s probably a combination of the two. Some people are just naturally funny but it is quite possible to develop a sense of humor. Learning to be funny can take some work but it will be well worth your time and effort. There are many books available on the subject which can be quite helpful in shaping your new sense of humor.
So the next time you are out on a date with the girl of your dreams, instead of trying to impress her with your knowledge or how important you are, try making her laugh and I’m sure you’ll find her smiling at you all evening long.
I remember in college there was this girl I was crazy about, her name was Theresa and she was incredibly attractive. Don’t get me wrong, I was no slouch either, I was handsome and the starting Center fielder for the Varsity Baseball team, people knew me. Theresa was in demand and there was never a moment when I didn’t see her with an entourage of potential beaus and hot chick wannabes’. To make a long story short, I began dating this woman of my dreams and for almost a month we went to dinners, movies and the usual things you would imagine on a date. It was a month of having a great looking woman on my arm; it was also one of the most boring months of my life!
This woman and I had nothing in common, and we spoke about very little, this also made the physical part of the relationship quite under-whelming. It was about this point in my life that I realized something, if I dated those who had similar interests not only did I have a fun girlfriend that understood what makes me tick, but a great new friend as well. From past experience I can tell you that having someone that shares your passion for life and enjoys the same activities or tastes in music and the arts will without a doubt, strengthen the relationship. I would even say that it is much more important to have someone that is your best friend than someone whose only selling point is their looks. Now, don’t get me wrong, looks definitely do not hurt, but on the attractiveness scale of 1-10, similar interests are worth a point or two.
Lets look at it this way, say you are an avid fly fisherman and one of the things you enjoy most in life is flying off to a remote location to spend a few days in pursuit of the elusive rainbow trout. Your significant other may not understand your need to leave her behind yet explaining that where you are going there are no day spas or fashionable bistros or possibly even no electricity. Even after explaining this, she may still not understand why she is not invited. Of course you can’t just come right out and say it’s because she will basically ruin the trip by whining and complaining. Now lets look at the same scenario but with a significant other who also enjoys outdoors adventure and is fully capable of handling herself. Sharing a trip such as this can only bring a couple closer, of course there are plenty of other things you could argue about, but leaving the other at home is not going to be one of them. In this situation you are also building memories that could last a lifetime.
OK, so if you think the previous example may have been a bit extreme, lets try an easier one. Suppose you are a big fan of raunchy comedies such as Borat and Jackass, but your girlfriend is a big fan of classic chick flicks and any movies made from the novels of Nora Roberts. There is a very good likelihood that the two of you will not be able to agree on what movie to go see, or perhaps even what television shows to watch. This often leads to spending even more time apart as one of you will be watching one show in the living room and the other will be watching in the bedroom.
I’m not saying that similar interests are the end all be all to a relationship, but they are certainly very important to long-term bliss. So the next time you are getting all nuts about some very attractive woman you need to decide on two key factors, is this person a long term possibility or are you just looking for some no strings attached fun. If its long term, then make certain that that you and she are compatible and share various interests and goals. For the short term, well, just have fun and make sure both of you know where it stands and are both on the same page to avoid someone getting too hurt. Aside from that, life is good, go out and enjoy!